Approaching someone you want to hook up with can be tricky.
You don't want to come on too strong and scare your crush away, BUT God forbid you miss your window of opportunity and spend the rest of the night imagining what could have happened if you just made the move.
Well, one 19-year-old girl on Reddit went straight to the source and asked men, "How do I get with guys at parties?"
And of course, some dudes had very interesting thoughts.
Their responses range from obvious to more elaborate and complicated, leaving me (a female) thinking that just doing whatever you want is always the way to go:
Assess your surroundings and act accordingly.
Frat party? That'll be less talking and more dancing, grinding, and playfully touching. If he dances and seems into it, go for the kiss or linger the eye contact. Just, uh, be careful out there. -/u/piercemydick
Depends on the dude tbh, but to shamelessly stereotype frat guys just build some sort of rapport, be obvious you want to hookup, and usually theyll be down. Ask him to dance then start grinding or let your hands wander, be his partner in beer pong and get touchy feely when you sink a shot, or just straight up lean in and tell him you think he's cute and want to make out or something. That being said, I think the biggest thing is to be direct and obvious and not rely on "signals" or "hints". A lot of guys (me) will brush off signals because they don't wanna misread something and be a creep. Hope this helps, good luck on your quest for dong. -/u/spidre_supreme
Be direct, and ask for what you want.
'Show me your room.' Should work fine. Kiss him once you get there. -/u/BtheChangeUwant2C
"you're cute, I'm DTF" It is that easy. -/u/Patatrooper_19D
Talk to guy. Flirt. Make out. Reach to his junk. Suggest you go upstairs. Sex all the sex. -/u/nickachu_
If that doesn't work, you can always try a more suggestive move.
Do the brush against thing. Ask to taste his drink. Offer a sip of yours. -/u/11214guy
"Hey wanna have some fun?" You'll get em everytime with that line if you're just looking for an easy lay. -/u/Mr_JK
Of course, you can't go wrong showing some cleavage.
Wear a revealing top and stand in a spot. You'll be approached in 5 minutes. -/u/Ballstrodomus
Some guys think it's easier than you're making it out to be.
Be a woman. Be around men. You don't even have to try, seriously -/u/Less-Talk-More-Bach
Grab him by the Penis.. -/u/ObiWeedBluntTokey
BUT, if you're looking for crazy specifics, this guy has your back.
The suggestions you asked for: Tell him he's cute and ask if he lives in the house. Suggest to see his room. If you're dancing, tell him he's a good dancer and jokingly ask how much he'd charge for a private dance. The guys won't have experience with being initiated on. Don't take their awkwardness as rejection. Other girls aren't competition unless you're all going for the same ultra-hot guy. Most of the time though you'll be the only girl initiating and won't have much competition. The suggestions you didn't ask for, but IMO need: Be careful. Remember you're 19 and they are likely in the same age range. You're all still figuring out how this stuff works. A hookup is a hookup and nothing more unless expressly stated. Don't expect a relationship or any measure of exclusivity. Some guys will even be inclined to hook up with someone else right after you. Have fun, be safe, and take time to think about your own feelings. Know and practice how to react to bad situations. He's lightly choking you without your permission, what do you do? He's trying to slip it in your butt, what do you do? He's going really hard, harder than you'd like - again, what do you do? He's talking super dirty and degrading, what do you do? Actually practice what you'd do/say in front of the mirror. Practice. Practice. Practice. You will enjoy your sex life a lot more if you know how to vocalize what you need. There are some genuinely bad people in the world who won't listen, but you can at least prepare for the guys who are simply dumb or have a different sex style than you. Along those lines, go partying with friends. Let them know what you're after and how they can check up on you without being a cockblock. -/u/HAHA_I_HAVE_KURU
The point is, men are FAIRLY simple creatures. Give them an inch, and likely, they'll take a mile. So just go for it, sister!