Some brides want to control every single aspect of their wedding from the color of the tablecloths to the songs the DJ plays throughout the night. While outsiders may look at that and label the bride a "bridezilla," anyone who has taken charge of wedding planning knows the more detail oriented you are along the way, the better you will feel on the big day.
That's why it may not be a big surprise to some when they hear that the bride gave her fiancé, a serious style guide for what they can and can not wear on the wedding day.
Here are some real-life examples.
1. No spiderman anything.
My fiancé is obsessed with Spiderman. Like, at least twice a week he wears something with a Spiderman logo or print on it. It's kind of a problem because I hate it and think his style is so immature and lame. I'm more of a J.Crew kind of gal, super put-together and classic, and he dresses like a 16-year-old nerd. I told him for the wedding he had to leave all his Spiderman gear behind. No joke, I send him daily reminders about this.
— Claire, 27
2. He must shave.
Everyday is "No Shave November" in my fiancé's life. He has so much facial hair — a beard, a mustache and a unibrow. I like it on most days; it's his style. But on our wedding day? No. We are having all our friends and family there. We are paying thousands for a photographer. I want him to shave. I wrote him a facial hair style guide with photos of celebs I wanted him to model his facial hair after. He has a deadline of the week before the wedding to do this, or I'm dragging him to a facial hair professional to get this done.
— Sarah, 29
We are paying thousands for a photographer. I want him to shave.
3. He can't mix black and brown.
It should be obvious, right? But not to my guy. He never matches. He claims he is color blind, but I don't believe him. My biggest fear for the wedding day is that he mixes black and brown. His tux is black, but what if he decides to wear brown shoes? My God, that would be a nightmare. I literally printed out photos of what not to do and put them side by side of what he should do. I wrote in big letters "Must wear the same color from top to bottom. No brown shoes." We'll see how this goes!
— Lindsey, 31
His tux is black, but what if he decides to wear brown shoes? My God, that would be a nightmare.
4. Look less like Jack Black and more like Ryan Gosling.
Nicely put, my fiancé is a slob when it comes to dressing himself. He wears the same T-shirt three days in a row, and it smells like food and sweat. I know I'm making him sound disgusting, but he works from home so he doesn't have to get dressed up ever. Anyway, I'm scared that he'll look like a slob for the wedding, and everyone will judge me for marrying a guy like that. I sat him down and got really upset. I asked him to please stop looking at Jack Black everyday. I want him to channel the inner Ryan Gosling I know he can be.
— Frannie G, 32
I want him to channel the inner Ryan Gosling I know he can be.
5. Lose the wrinkles on clothes.
Since the girls are getting ready in a different location than the guys — about 15 minutes away‚ I wanted to make sure it was crystal clear how my the guys should look. The number one thing I stressed was no wrinkles on their tuxedo shirts or pants. I even bought them a steamer and hired someone to go over to their getting ready place to make sure their clothes are steamed. I'm very type-A and just want to make sure the guys of the wedding party look hot.
— Anna, 27
6. Please don't go commando.
My fiancé doesn't always wear underwear. It's his "thing." He thinks it is fun to go commando. Here's my issue for the wedding day — what if his pants split while he is dancing? He's a rowdy dancer and goes wild on the dance floor after a few drinks. I can just imagine it now, his pants splitting and him showing his butt to everyone. I asked him seven times in the last month to wear underwear and he laughs every time and says "maybe."
— Dani, 24
I asked him seven times in the last month to wear underwear and he laughs every time and says "maybe."
7. Follow my style guide.
Call me a Bridezilla or a fashion queen, but I made a style guide that was three pages long on what the groom and his groomsmen should wear. Everything from the brand of socks they need to buy to how to tie their bow tie. I did it all. It's a step-by-step guide that everyone can follow, even if they are brainless when it comes to style.
— Rach, 31