Stop Hanging Out: How To Ask Her On A Proper Date


Asking a girl out on a proper date is the name of the game. It’s how the men are separated from the boys. You want to be known as a take-charge man who goes right after what he wants. Asking her out on a date, rather than just vaguely suggesting that you two “hang out” some time, is how you’re going to show her that’s precisely who you are. Here are a few tips to get the job done.

Tip 1: Have A Rolodex Of Dates

Back in the day, a man didn’t have a smartphone; he had a little black book, or a Rolodex, with all his numbers in it. You need an inventory of potential date ideas. Search the Internet for killer date ideas and make a mental list of which ones appeal to you the most. Have a few different ones on hand that you can drop on the fly in case you’re in need. Having somewhere between five or ten interesting and creative killer date ideas is going to have you looking great when you pull them out at the right time.

Tip 2: Always Be Closing

A lot of guys make a very common mistake: texting, without cease. Remember, texting is great, but ultimately, it’s a communication tool for getting you where you want to be. You want to chat and flirt a little bit, but ultimately, you’re trying to ask her on a date, get her to say yes, and then finalize your plans. The best conversations are the ones that take place in person. Remember that 90-percent of communication isn’t about the words you use, but your body language and tone of voice. So get her in your presence!

Tip 3: Pick An Activity

Going to a movie or dinner on a first date is just about the worst thing you can do. The first doesn’t allow for any interaction between the two of you, and the latter is completely dependent upon it. You want something that allows the two of you interact, but doesn’t demand that you do. Activity dates, like hiking or hitting up a local art gallery, give you something to do while you talk and something to fall back on when conversation fails.

Tip 4: End Things Sooner Rather Than Later

You ultimately want to get women chasing you. That means leaving them wanting more rather than having them wishing things ended an hour ago. Dates with a built-in time limit are the best option because they allow you to extend things if you want, while also allowing you to get out of a date before it gets awkward. In the event of a true disaster date, having a built-in time limit is a lot more dignified than asking a friend for a rescue ring.

Tip 5: Set Up Another Date

When you’re on the first date, you should take a minute to tell her that you’re having a great time once or twice (but only if you are) and set up a second date (but only if you want to).  That way, you’ll both know where you stand, and you’ll both have something to look forward to. What’s more, you’re going to have taken the initiative, yet again, which is something that women love.

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