6 Fights Every Couple Has, No Matter How In Love You Are
Of course, there are some fights every couple has in a relationship, but sometimes, things get super petty. And if there is one thing I am good at, it is being petty and passive aggressive in relationships. Is there an award for that? Probably not.
Anyway, my ex was obsessed with Game of Thrones. It was our routine that we would watch it together every week. We'd order in food, cuddle together in bed, and I would pretend to know what's going on, because after years of watching, I still can't really follow it.
One day, we got in a fight, and in retaliation, I decided to hurt him the best way I knew how. Did I cheat? No. Did I break up with him? Of course not.
I turned off my phone and watched Game of Thrones alone — without him.
When you're in a relationship, you are bound to get in fights, some serious, but most of them pretty silly. Here are some extremely petty things you'll definitely fight over with the person you love at some point. (Because we're all human, no one is perfect, and relationships are a lot of work, right?)
If you're in a committed relationship, especially a long-term one where you're living together, fights about finances are bound to come up.
One of my friends just moved in with her boyfriend, and they weren't sure how to address the situation regarding rent. Should he pay for everything just because he is "the guy"? Should they split it down the middle? Should they split it percentage wise, based on their salaries? Additionally, fights about finances can lead to a lot of little resentment, especially if someone is consistently buying groceries or racking up a big bill on iTunes.
The best way to avoid petty fights about money is to maintain open, honest, and immediate communication with your partner when it comes to your cash. You don't want a few dollars (or a lot of them) to destroy your dating life.
Does your boyfriend have that one friend, Chad, who is always super drunk and convincing him to go out? You will probably get in a few fights over Chad. And maybe your boyfriend doesn't like your friend Tiffany, who is always encouraging you to flirt with guys when you're out.
You're most likely going to get in a few fights that involve your friend groups. You'll get mad at your boyfriend when he forgets to check in with you on that night out with the guys, and he'll roll his eyes when your girls are over at the house to watch The Bachelorette.
But part of relationships is tolerating each other's friends, even if you wouldn't necessarily pick them for yourself. If you love your boyfriend, you're gonna have to tolerate Chad, at least once in a while.
Is your guy a mama's boy who is constantly being smothered by his parents? Yeah, then you're probably going to have a few discussions about boundaries once in a while.
Family can be a touchy subject, especially in long-term relationships. What are you going to do when it comes to holidays? What happens if you don't like your in-laws?
The good thing is this: It's completely normal to have disagreements in this area and definitely not an indicator that your relationship is necessarily in trouble. Plus, there's nothing a few glasses of wine before a family dinner won't fix.
Once you're in a relationship, you're not only committed to one another, but you're also committed to watching certain shows together. So sometimes, binge-watching your favorite shows alone — or even worse, with someone else — can seem more unforgivable than cheating. You know what I'm saying.
Most likely, you'll get in a fight or two about the remote during your relationship. You'll probably be forced to watch shows you don't like, and your guy will have to start Keeping Up With The Kardashians. But relationships are about compromise... and about sharing your HBO GO password.
5. Destination Weddings
Being in a relationship means one thing: You have to go to twice as many weddings. And you'll ask yourself, "Do I have to go to all of them?"
The tricky part of dating is determining which events you have to go to, and which events you can afford to go to. My ex-boyfriend's co-worker once had a wedding in Marfa, Texas, (I live in Los Angeles) that I not only did not have the disposable income to attend, but I also couldn't take off work for. And that really pissed my ex off.
Going to events with your partner can be fun, but they can also be stressful, especially if they include travel. So if you're forced to attend something you'd rather not go to, try to focus on the fun parts of the event. And if you're frustrated your partner can't go to an event with you, try to be understand of why they can't go. There's always next time.
If you have a Type-A personality and your partner is a slob, you're most likely going to get in some fights.
A way to avoid this: create a chore chart.
This might make you feel like a kindergartener who is getting stars on his or her report card, but it's an efficient way to get things done that will help you avoid resentment. Your guy can do the grocery shopping and dishes and you can do the cleaning. He does the laundry, you take out the trash. Divy up the chores evenly, switch them every week, and create a routine that's fair to avoid fighting.
And, once everyone does their chores for the day, instead of putting a star on a chart, you can get a naughty reward instead.
So when you're in a relationship, there are a lot of little things you will fight about. It's normal. You're spending a lot of time with the same person, over and over again, and you're bound to get annoyed every once in a while. From Netflix to household chores, friends to family, don't be alarmed if issues are coming up in your relationship over these topics.
Is there anything silly you and your partner fight about? Let me know in the comments.
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