Don't Try To Make Someone Stay, Let Him go

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When you love someone who no longer wants to be part of your life, it hurts like hell. There's no sugarcoating it.

When you've put someone first for so long, provided as much love and affection as you possibly could and bent over backward for a person who decides exiting your life for good is the answer, your heart will inevitably snap.

You'll be filled with an overwhelming emptiness you'll find near impossible to ignore.

Don't consider this message tough love; I'm just telling you so you can brace yourself if this should happen to you, too.

So many of us try so desperately to convince that person to stay. Why?

So many of us try so desperately to convince that person to stay. Why?

Is it because you're scared of a life without him or her? Is it because you're used to him or her being there? Is it because you love this person that much?

No matter what reasons or excuses you come up with, stop trying to keep that SO around.

Let me put it this way: If someone no longer wants to be part of your life, why do you want him or her to remain in it?

You won't be getting what you want out of someone who's only half-assed in the game just because you desperately begged for your SO to stick around. Then you'll be the only one to blame when you find yourself unhappy in a relationship with someone who's not fully in it.

Being alone can be scary, especially if you're used to the company of a significant other. And the fear of starting all over with someone new is even scarier. But if your SO is not realizing all you have to offer — if he or she confident that walking away is the best option — let your love go.

Let me tell you something: There will be someone out there who will see your full worth. There will be someone out there who will want to work through the hard times instead of packing up and leaving when things get tough. There will be someone out there who's love for you pours out of every pore of his or her body.

You can, and you will, find someone who will stay.

You can, and you will, find someone who will stay.

You may not understand what's happening in the moment, but one day, you'll look back and not only understand why things didn't work out, but you'll be thankful.

Until then, you muddle through these sad, heartbreaking moments as best as you can with endless calls to friends, copious glasses of wine and Nicholas Sparks movie marathons.

You shouldn't ever have to fight to be loved. Being in a relationship, there will inevitably be fighting. Hell, being in a relationship in itself is one big fight. It's a constant struggle to make things work.

You shouldn't ever have to fight to be loved.

But the second you feel like you're the only one fighting, realize the one you're fighting for is not “the one.” Relationships are a two-way street, and you shouldn't be the only one steering the way.

One day, your SO will look back and regret leaving. Maybe not tomorrow, maybe not this week, maybe not even this year. But some day, he or she will look back and realize they walked out on someone who was putting her all into something — someone who never would've given up, even when times got tough.

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It hurts now, but it won't for long. Every failed relationship is a trial and error.

You learn not only how to be a better partner, but what you want — and don't want — in your future relationships. You'll come out stronger, happier and more mature in the end.