She's Not: The 9 Things A Girl Actually Means When She Says She's Fine

by Ashley Fern

If there's one thing everyone can agree on about females, it's that when they say they're fine, they are most certainly not fine.

We women say we're fine because we expect our questioner to basically read our minds and know exactly what is going on.

Usually this phrase comes from a boyfriend or close friend who should be well aware of how we're feeling at any given moment.

As ridiculous as this may sound, we don't really give a sh*t because we're upset and the whole world should halt for that.

We do realize how counterproductive this is, as we get even more frustrated when no one is able to figure out what's really bothering us. But hey, that's just the harsh world we're living in.

Of course, there are women out there who are upfront with their feelings, but this post isn't for them. So, before you go shouting at me, take a breath. Moving on...

What do women really mean when they say they're fine? Well, here are some possible explanations:

1. She's testing you

A woman often uses this expression to see if you can figure out exactly why she is feeling this way.

If you are a boyfriend, you better know that she's thinking -- you've been dating long enough to deem this perfectly acceptable. Yeah, this totally sounds like a rational methodology.

2. She's tired

Hell hath no fury like a woman who didn't get enough sleep. We are irritable, cranky and most definitely going to take it out on you if and when you annoy us.

Of course, it would be easier to just let you know we're tired, but honestly, you probably wouldn't even believe we could get this bitchy due to lack of sleep.

3. She doesn't want to argue

Instead of engaging in a long, drawn-out discussion that will inevitably turn into an argument, a woman will just claim she's fine, so you stop talking.

Accept your victory and move on. This does not mean you get to bring up said argument at a later time because you will get no further response, anyway.

4. She's f*cking pissed

If said woman in question is exhibiting her bitchy resting face while claiming she is fine, she is not f*cking fine. In fact, it is quite the opposite.

She is using this as an excuse to be outright rude because the last thing she wants to do is explain how she is actually feeling. Throw some chocolate her way and leave her alone. See if that works.

5. She's starving

I honestly don't know when a woman is more irritable: when she's tired or hungry. When her stomach starts growling and her food headache approaches, the last thing she wants to do is engage in any conversation.

Step aside and let her raid the nearest food stand because everyone knows there's no issue a good snack can't solve.

6. She doesn't want to talk about it

For some reason, instead of saying either, "I don't want to talk about it" or "It's not you, it's me," a woman just claims she's fine.

I guess the rationale behind that would be, despite saying she doesn't want to talk about it, she would somehow be forced into talking about it.

7. She's on her period

If a guy thinks the reason his girl is "fine" is that she is on her period, the last thing he should do is ask if she's on her period. It may make absolutely no sense, but just don't do it. Trust me and thank me later.

8. She's stressed

Sometimes, when a girl is overly stressed from work or her personal life, she just wants to be left alone. She doesn't want to be bothered with incessant nagging if she's okay.

She is annoyed and just wants everyone to essentially F-off. If you sense your girl is stressed, just don't even bother asking because you will not be getting anymore of an elaborate response than that.

9. She wants to be comforted

This is when you are supposed to shut up, not ask questions. Just comfort your girl who is clearly far from fine.

She doesn't want to delve into detail because her emotions will spiral out of control. Just sit there and be there; that is sufficient enough.

Bonus: Maybe she actually is fine?...Nah...

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