Guys Reveal The Painfully Real Reasons They Haven't Told Their Partners They Love Them Yet

by Candice Jalili
Stocksy/Evgenij Yulkin

I love my boyfriend a lot. We've been together over a year, and I've probably loved him for the vast majority of that time together. That being said, if he had not said "I love you" first, there is absolutely no way in hell that I would have initiated that conversation. Luckily for me, my boyfriend knows he's dating a spineless weenie when it comes to that sort of stuff, so he said it first. But if you didn't get quite so lucky with your partner, and you're sitting around wondering why he hasn't said "I love you" yet, let me help shed some light on his possible psyche for you.

I'm not an emotionally unavailable man, so unfortunately, I can't give you any insight from my own personal life, but what I can do is provide you with some quotes from actual men who explained on a Reddit thread why it is that they haven't told their ladies that they love them. Brace yourselves, because some of these quotes are going to hit you with some painful reality checks. But other ones might fill you up with hope! Read along and let the overanalyzing begin! (Just kidding, don't overanalyze these PLEASE.)

Because they've only been on seven dates.

Because I've known her less than a month, and we've been on like seven dates. Admittedly, 3 of those, she slept over at mine, but still, too early.


Because he's afraid of pushing her away.

Because with 95% probability this assertion would push another person away


Because he doesn't want to lie to her.

because I don't? That would be a cruel and pointless lie.


Because he knows he doesn't matter to her.

Cuz she's been in a relationship for 4 years and I'm not even a speck of dust in her life as it seems.


Because he has to love someone else.

My wife would be mad


Because she's married to another person.

Cause she married to someone else.


Because she has a restraining order against him.

Because of that restraining order.


Because she cut him out of her life, and he doesn't know why.

Because she stopped talking to me 5 months ago and I'm not sure why. I wish we could be friends again


Because he doesn't love her.

Because I don't.


Because they broke up over a year ago, and she moved on.

Because its been more than year since our split and she is happily engaged with a man that is probably a better fit for her, same career and religion. Im truly happy for her and telling her that would only cause more pain and drama.


Because he's waiting until he's known her a full week.

we've only hooked up once so it may be too soon lol. last time I gave myself a full week


Because he's not totally sure she feels the same way.

Because I'm not 100% sure if she'd say it back...


Because he already has, and it didn't go so well.

I have, but she doesn't.


Because he doesn't want to ruin their friendship.

i'm too scared to ruin our friendship and i don't think she likes me that way, plus we're 2+ hours apart at college.


Because he has a feeling it's not mutual.

I don't think she loves me back


Because they're not officially together, and he doesn't want to come off as creepy.

Because it'd be creepy to say shit like that to someone I'm not even dating.


Now, you can read these excerpts and really ruminate on whether or not your guy is thinking some of the same things as these dudes. But another option on the table is to just tell him how you feel and see how he responds. I mean, if the responses on here are any indication, there's a pretty good chance he feels the same way, and he's just been too scared to tell you.

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