What Are Threesomes Like? 6 Women Reveal What Their First Experiences Were Like

As someone who's never had a threesome, I can attest to the fact that the concept can be a little daunting. And it's not that I think there's anything wrong or bad about them. It's more just that I'm not really sure what I should expect. And can you blame me? The only place threesomes seem to be normalized within the American culture is porn, and I know that can't be an accurate depiction so I'm left wondering: What are threesomes like?

As someone who never learned about them in sex ed, never saw them played out in movies or on TV (except for that one low-key sad episode of Entourage), and doesn't have any friends who have had them, how am I supposed to know what they're like? Well, luckily, a recent Reddit AskWomen thread is here to clear some things up. In the thread, ladies share their own personal experiences with having threesomes, and here, I share their best, most informative responses with you. Go forth and learn, my people!

It was fine but it wasn't great.

I was dating a guy non-exclusively, and he was dating another woman who was bi. She'd apparently seen a pic of me and suggested the threesome to him, who suggested it to me. I was in a phase where I wanted to be more adventurous, so even though I wasn't into it, I was willing to be game.
So we did, at my apartment. She knew that I was basically straight, and I was mostly the recipient of attentions during the deed. It was ... fine? I had a little freakout after the left, didn't feel comfortable sleeping in my own bed that night for whatever reason. We never did it again.

localgyro

They plan on doing it again.

Both of us came up with the idea to have a threesome. My girlfriend had already been in a few, and I had not. Just wanted to do new things together. So we found another woman for the explicit reason of inviting her into our bed.
It turned out great and we plan to do it again.

PelicanInHerPiety

It was one of the biggest highlights of her sex life.

I’ve had several threesomes. None of them happened randomly, and the best ones with with my husband and our ex boyfriend. We were all into each other and it felt very fun and natural. I consider these threesomes one of the biggest highlights of my sex life, and I’d jump at the chance to do it again

BattleRoyali

Doing it with someone you're in a relationship with can provide difficulties.

I had a few a long time ago, all spontaneous and with women friends. We were just always all drunk and horny so it was fun. I would never do it with a person I'm in a relationship with because I'd be jealous and sad.

SlowWillow

It all depends on how you feel about your partner.

I've been in many--as a couple with a third, as a third, and as just three people having fun. I'm bisexual and keenly, keenly into group sex. I'm both a voyeur and an exhibitionist (but only if consent is involved in all directions--I don't want to have sex in public where strangers who are not actively interested in watching are unpleasantly surprised), so group sex is an ideal situation for me. Obviously being bisexual is different than it would be for straight people--straight people usually only enjoy group stuff if they're the focus of attention from two people of their preferred gender, or if they're a voyeur and are enjoying spoiling their partner with someone else. With gay people, well, you don't have the sexuality hiccup at least, if it's a group of lesbians or gay men.
But for the "as a couple how do you share" part of your question, it's partially because I'm wildly confident in my sexual prowess, and not in the least possessive. I don't think possessiveness is a healthy trait. Which doesn't mean I think everyone should be having group sex, heh, that's stupid, but, I do wish fewer people felt like they had some sort of "ownership" of their partner.

InfinitelyThirsting

There was no awkwardness or jealousy.

It was spontaneous, not discussed beforehand at all with a female friend of mine and my male partner. We were drunk, she and I flirted often and it just happened.
Everyone says this is not the way to do it, but we were fine and had a good time. No hurt feelings, no awkwardness, no jealousy. I’m no longer friends with her but for entirely separate reasons.
I would do it again if we found the right woman. Actually I’d be into if we found the right person period, but my husband wouldn’t be into a MMF threesome.

shoup88

OK, you're welcome for that quick little Part II to your high school sex ed class. Carry on!

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