Do you believe that cheating in a relationship is an automatic deal-breaker? Or are there some cases where, if someone makes a mistake once, there can be a chance of rebuilding trust after infidelity and getting the relationship back on track? How you answer that question really is the first step to determining if your relationship can survive cheating. That's because while the majority of the work it takes to get past this betrayal is up to the person who did the cheating, NYC relationship expert and love coach Susan Winter tells Elite Daily that rebuilding trust comes down to the betrayed partner's willingness to stick it out. "Rebuilding trust in a relationship after infidelity can only be done if both partners are committed to the process of forgiving and moving forward," says Winter.
On the one hand, the idea that it's up to both partners to rebuild (and not just the one who cheated) might seem unfair, but in some ways, this can actually be really empowering. After you're cheated on, it's easy to feel powerless because this betrayal has happened to you, but by committing to being a part of working through this problem — and the other problems that may underline it — it actually puts some control back in your hands in a real way. So, if you are ever in a situation where rebuilding after infidelity is something you're facing, here is how Winter says you can do it.