Tell me if this sounds familiar: Tonight's the night you're planning on meeting up with someone you've been talking to. You've been looking forward to it, but when the time comes, they ghost. No show, no explanation. You just got stood up, and it sucks. Besides being rude, being stood up can actually be really hurtful. Unfortunately, the only thing you can really do at this point is learn from the experience and move forward, but sometimes, that's easier said than done. That's why knowing how to get closure if you’ve been stood up can be so important.
The first step is to remember that you're not alone. "Being stood up happens," relationship expert April Masini tells Elite Daily. "And the reason it happens is because people don’t want to go out with you and they don’t have the relationship tools to tell you. Usually they fear their own discomfort at hurting your feelings, or they don’t want a confrontation or to be scolded for not wanting to date you, so they just don’t show and don’t contact you."
While being stood up can feel like a rejection, Trina Leckie, breakup coach and host of the Breakup BOOST podcast, tells Elite Daily that in reality, this kind of behavior says way more about them than it does you. "Someone who has no problem doing this to someone else speaks volumes about their character," Leckie says. "I would say it is common among those who are selfish and lack a conscience. It happens because some people just don’t care about the feelings of others, don’t honor the commitments they make, and it is probably reflective in other areas of their life as well."
However, knowing that it's not about you and feeling that way can be two different things, so if you're still finding it difficult to let it go, here's how the experts recommend you move on and the closure you need.