I am prone to displaying my disdain for people, places, and things via an accidental grimace. I know that I am not unique, and this phenomenon has been called "resting bitch face" — of course, I prefer the much less misogynistic "distracted mind face." I find it strange that while I often look like I hate the world, I'm actually a major people-pleaser. I'm full of snark, but deep down, I want everyone to like me. (Don't we all?) I especially want people I'm dating to like me. (Shouldn't they?) If you're only doing something for your boyfriend or girlfriend's pleasure, and it makes you feel uncomfortable for any reason, it's worth taking investigating why.
In an ideal world, all relationships would be balanced — they would be equal partnerships when it comes to attention given, decisions made, activities to take part in, and so on. 2018, however, is not an ideal world. In reality, partnerships require sacrifice and compromise on both parts, which is what sort of makes them beautiful but whatever, love is gross.
Just kidding! Love is beautiful and if you love someone you should let them know! But if you're only focused on pleasing your partner, and your partner does not reciprocate, you're not looking out for yourself. The biggest problem with focusing only on pleasing your partner is that this lack of balance can lead to problems down the road. But how can you tell if you're in an imbalanced partnership? I spoke to clinical psychologist and host of The Web Radio Show Joshua Klapow, Ph.D. about the red flags you're only doing something for your partner, not yourself.