Crushes are magical unicorns that happen upon us every once in a while. Crushes don't necessarily have to be on someone you see yourself with in reality, or even on someone you are dating at the moment. You can crush on celebrities, coworkers, baristas, Lyft drivers, — pretty much whoever you want! The best part about crushes? They're often entirely based on a "je ne sais quoi" factor (especially a crush on a celebrity, a person you don't know anything about... not even what they smell like). Which is why I was curious to ask friends and strangers about exactly what attracted them to their last crush.
My own personal recent crush was not on a person I was dating at all. However, the crush did happen to come up while I was on a date. (Oops.) The crushing was on a very handsome and kind bartender who made a quality cocktail, but I didn't fully crush on him until he made a sort-of joke about our second round of drinks order. When I weirdly fumbled my words and just said, "Yes, please," rather than, "I'd like the same thing, please," he helped me out and asked, "Same, same?" It's not even that funny of a comment, but I love saying it and was immediately charmed. CRUSHES ARE STRANGE!
As I started asking friends what attracted them to their crushes – and I will say, most of those friends in long-term relationships did not speak of their S.O.s, but instead about those little crushes that creep up out of nowhere — I thought about what commonalities my crushes tend to have. First, it is definitely a sense of humor. Second, intelligence or ambition. Obviously, smoldering looks don't hurt. Here's what the people of Reddit and some of my dear friends had to say about their most recent crushes and what attracted them to those people.