Choosing to have casual sex is just as empowering as choosing not to because, in both situations, you are completely in control of your sex life. Too often, the narrative of the sexually liberated woman is one where she's just as eager to have one-night stands as some of her male counterparts. That's great and all (yay, equality) but it suggests that single women staying celibate aren't living their best ~feminist~ lives.
I've been single for about a year and a half now and yes, I've had casual hookups but I've learned that they're not really my thing. Don't get me wrong. I love flirting with people and going on dates when I'm single. I just don't feel the need to sleep with any of these people, at least until I have a clearer idea of what sort of relationship we're entering into. Are we friends with benefits? Are we seeing each other but not exclusively? Are we working toward a relationship? It's not that I need us to be committed but I do need to know what's going on. I know. I know. It's super Type A but what can I say? I am who I am.
The thing that irks me about casual hookups outside of these definitions is how sh*tty people can be about it. Like, if I'm getting a bikini wax for this, you can at least try not to be a jerk. Need me to decode that? Sure. Don't flake on our plans to get drinks and then send me a midnight "U up?" text. Just doesn't do it for me.