My mom has been married to my dad for 30 years. He's the first and only guy she's ever dated, which I have trouble wrapping my mind around most days. She, on the other hand, doesn't understand how I can date someone without being exclusive. When it comes to millennial dating practices, we've agreed to disagree. Still, I think moms' advice about marriage might be more important now than ever before. With trends like ghosting, orbiting, and zombieing — which are definitely not mom-approved, BTW — it's worth reminding yourself of the basics.
For example, my mom's one bit of marriage advice is that things will never work if you don't respect each other first. My mom's theory is that relationship staples, like trust and open communication, can only exist between two people who genuinely respect each other's opinions, feelings, interests, and boundaries. Without mutual respect, you're just two people co-existing more like acquaintances rather than partners. You might as well be seat mates on the subway at this point.
Her advice reminds me of the scene in The Wedding Planner when Salvatore (played by Alex Rucco) tells his daughter Mary (played by Jennifer Lopez) the story of how his and her mother's marriage came to be so successful. It wasn't love at first sight for the fictional couple, who had an arranged marriage. For them, he says that appreciation grew to respect, respect to like, and like to a deeper love than he could ever hope for.
You may not do things exactly like your parents did but you can learn a lot from their wise and experienced takes on life and love. These six moms shared the best marriage advice with their millennial kids.