In most cases, an amicable relationship with an ex is major goals. If there’s no bad blood post-breakup and you still mean a lot to each other, there’s a chance you probably still want to have your ex in your life in some capacity, whether that be a coffee every once in a while, or having them as a regular staple in your friend group. But none of that is possible if your ex is still hung up on you. If you've ever had trouble getting over someone, you know it can be hard to just make that clean break and transition into something platonic. Even when you think you're playing it cool, strong feelings are hard to hide. “It's usually quite obvious when an ex is still hung up on you,” Trina Leckie, breakup coach and host of the Breakup BOOST podcast, tells Elite Daily. “I would say that the signs are usually more obvious than subtle.”
Knowing when an ex is having trouble letting go is important for a couple of reasons. First, if you're open to the idea of getting back together, recognizing that you're on the same page can help make that happen. "If you're still hung up on them as well, you could talk to them about possibly getting back together (as long as the relationship didn’t end from something like cheating or abuse)," says Leckie. On the other hand, if you're sure you're ready to move on, these behaviors can confirm your ex is, well, definitely not. And although knowing someone is still pining over you can be uncomfortable, understanding their feelings can help you gently nudge them in the right direction (in this case, away from you), ask a mutual friend to step in, or give them some necessary space. Either way, here’s what the experts say to be on the lookout for if you suspect your ex may still have feelings for you.