Picture this: You're on a dating app and you've matched with someone you're super into. The chat that follows is easy and natural, and you're honestly getting pretty excited about what the chemistry will be like when you're face to face. And yet, it just isn't happening. Even when you take the initiative to try and push things in that direction, it's just sort of stalled out at the texting phrase. Frustrating! But this could very well be a sign your dating app match doesn’t want to meet IRL. This pattern isn't as uncommon as you might think, as Connell Barrett, Dating Transformation founder and dating coach with The League, tells Elite Daily. "Some singles are swiping just for the dopamine hit of getting matches and receiving flirty text messages and openers. It feels good to get a match, to be asked out. It’s candy for the ego. Unfortunately, this can make the other person feel like they’re being led on, which they are," he says.
This might be especially true right now when COVID-19 has people feeling more isolated and lonely. That's a key cause for this kind of behavior, as Diana Dorell, intuitive dating coach and author of The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, tells Elite Daily. "Chatting on dating apps helps combat the feeling of being alone, but if you're not feeling your best, or haven't washed your hair in days or weeks, you might be looking for a digital pen pal," she explains. And while there's nothing wrong with that, it's only right that you indicate this fact in your bio so no one's confused, she adds.
If you suspect that someone you're chatting with might be playing a similar game, here's what the experts say to be on the lookout for.