5 Romantic Texts To Send Your Partner After A Fight, So They’ll Want To Kiss & Make Up
Fighting with your partner can be really painful, but sometimes what's even worse than the fight itself is the aftermath. That time when you've gone your separate ways to cool down and everything that was said starts to sink in. While taking that space is really important, once you're feeling better the question is who is going to break the silence, and how? Texting is a great way to kind of dip your toe in and test the temperature between you, and it doesn't hurt to have a few romantic texts to send your partner after a fight to both express how you are feeling, but also to remind them why they love you, too.
Just as important as what you say in the text is the timing of when you send it. "It is completely normal for you or your partner to need space after a fight," Kali Rogers, founder of Blush Online Life Coaching, previously told Elite Daily. This is because, as she explains, it gives you the time to get some perspective on what you are really feeling, and to allows you to drop your defenses. It also gives you a chance to "practice how you’d like to articulate an apology," Rogers said.
Once you’ve had enough of a breather to center yourself and know what you want to say, Rogers recommended reaching out via text. "Texting each other can bring back a state of normalcy to the relationship. It can act as a repair to whatever fight occurred and help you two get back into your daily rhythm." She also cautioned to be careful not to restart the fight again over text message. "It’s best to use text for positive messages only — negative messages can be read in the wrong tone or escalate a fight even more," she said.
As for how to know when you're really ready to reach out, Rogers said to wait until you can think about the fight without "emotional flooding," which she described as such: "Your heart starts to race, tone or volume of voice changes, your thoughts start to accelerate, and your defensive tactics skyrocket." Her advice: Wait until you are totally at peace with yourself and the fight.
Now that you know when to reach out, the question remains: What do you say? If the fight has you feeling textually tongue tied, here are some suggestions of messages to send to get you started.
1Remind them of how much they mean to you.
“Hey you. Have I mentioned lately that you’re the best thing that's ever happened to me? I hate it when we fight. Can we please skip to the kissing and making up part?”
2Acknowledge your mistakes.
“Right about now I’m starting to understand that whole, ‘you hurt the ones you love most’ cliché. I feel terrible about what I said. Can I please make it up to you?”
3Let them know the door is open for a reconciliation.
"OK, so we did the fighting part… So, now can we please start making up? I promise it will be more fun.”
4Reassure them that your behavior will change.
“I can say sorry over and over, but since actions speak louder than words ever could, come over and let me show you how sorry I really am.”
5Ask for forgiveness.
“Maybe this is corny, but it’s true. There is no happily ever after without you in it. Please forgive me.”
It can be hard to be the first one to reach out after a fight. It may require you to swallow a bit of pride, but the best relationships are worth it. All couples fight, but it's how you you make up and grow from the fight that really matters. "Don’t judge a relationship by the fighting, judge a relationship by the way you two recover and work together to reduce the frequency and/or escalation of the fights," Rogers concluded. It’s easy to use our words to hurt one another, but here is a chance for you to use them to heal the relationship, too.