The term "healthy relationship" gets thrown around more than confetti on New Year's Eve, but people tend to have vastly different ideas of what a healthy relationship actually looks like based on a variety of factors — including the relationship examples they grew up seeing and the values instilled in them from childhood. But despite these different ideas, most healthy relationships will have similar qualities that are important to seek out and strive for if you want a relationship that'll make you feel stable and happy.
Psychotherapist Dr. Vassilia Binensztok defines a healthy romantic relationship as one that is "resilient" in the face of stressors. "Every relationship has ups and downs. Arguments will happen and problems will arise," Binensztok tells Elite Daily. "A healthy relationship is one that has been strengthened by both people, so that it can weather rough seas." Another way of conceptualizing what a healthy relationship looks like is to think about your relationship in terms of how happy and fulfilled you feel. "In a relational context, I like to focus on satisfaction," Todd Baratz, a psychotherapist who focuses on sex and relationships, tells Elite Daily. Do you feel good about your relationship dynamic? Do you feel respected by your partner, and like you can be your truest self? Your happy relationship might not necessarily look like your best friend's happy relationship, and that's OK. What matters most is how you feel in your own partnership.
Binensztok and Baratz laid out five solid relationship qualities that the most basic healthy relationships should have. Other qualities, like your sex life or how much time you dedicate to each other, can be subjective. Again, you and your partner's ideal might not be the same as someone else's, but a physically and emotionally healthy relationship will usually have the below.