5 Mantras To Recite When Your Ex Gets Engaged, Because It Can Be Tough To See

Picture this: You survived the breakup. Your ex moved on, and it hurt when you found out they were dating again, but you persevered — until you learn your ex is engaged. Welp, they went and popped the question... to someone else. It’s brutal, but guess what? In some ways, that bad news is the best thing that could have happened, because it means it's really over and it's time to move on for real. That can be easier said than done, but having mantras to recite when your ex gets engaged can really come in handy. If you've never used a mantra, then the idea may sound silly. After all, what could repeating a phrase really do to help you feel better about heartbreak? In reality, mantras are really powerful, because they can help you take back control of your own inner narrative. With repetition, they can help you to believe in what you're saying — and belief is everything.

Mantras can assist in combating negative self-talk and help you be kinder to yourself, which, in the aftermath of discovering your ex is engaged, might be super helpful. Setting aside a little time each day to be present and repeat helpful phrases to yourself can truly do wonders. But also, when the negative thoughts come — and they might — mantras can be held at the ready to help drown them out. So, to get you started, here are some mantras to keep mentally handy when your ex is getting hitched, and it's getting to you.

1. “They were not the one for me.”

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When you find out your ex has gotten engaged, it can make you feel like they were "the one that got away." Or that you've missed out on something, especially if you were the one to end it. But when you think about it, if they were "the one," wouldn't you still be together? There has to be a reason why you're not. The beauty of this particular mantra is that it helps reinforce the idea that this person was simply not your person, and that might be able to help you release any lingering doubts you have.

2. “My future is exciting and full of love and possibility.”

Your ex getting engaged might bring up a lot of feelings about the past, but the truth is, there is no going back. So, instead of looking back with nostalgia and longing for things that are not meant to be, focus on all the excitement and possibilities ahead of you — in both your life in general, and when it comes to love.

3. “I am enough, all on my own.”

Seeing an ex get cuffed up for life might make you feel a little lonely, but you’re never really alone when you love yourself. Use this mantra to help remind you to refocus on self-love. You don’t need a partner to make you whole. You really are enough all on your own.

4. “I release all my feelings for [name of your ex].”

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Now is the perfect time to hit restart on your heart. One way to do that is to focus on releasing any lingering feelings about your ex. Sometimes, letting go is the best closure you can ever get. So, take a deep breath, repeat this mantra, and re-focus on yourself and your goals.

5. “I genuinely wish them well.”

This one may be the hardest, but most important of them all. If you can get to a place where you are genuinely happy for your ex finding love, then you might just be over them for good. Plus, good energy attracts good energy, so by finding happiness for your ex, you set yourself up to attract more love into your life as well. That's a win-win.

Sure, finding out that your ex hasn’t just moved on, but is actually engaged can be a real gut punch, but it can also be great motivation to heal and open yourself up to new possibilities. So, why not embrace it?