I can't count the times I've over-analyzed a text thread, attempted to decipher what a text "really means," or detected a problem in a relationship from a weird text. Since we all send a zillion texts a day, a lot of interaction with our nearest and dearest happens over text. If you're in a relationship, texting with your bae is likely a consistent part of your day. If your honey suddenly stops texting you when they get home from work or when they wake up in the morning, could these be texting clues your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheatingon you?
I spoke to Elle Huerta, CEO and founder of breakup appMend, about this and she emphasizes that texting isn't the most clear way to communicate with your partner. She says, "Texting is missing a lot of the context that an in-person conversation has— eye contact, body language, the tone of voice. So it's only one piece of the puzzle." If you suspect your partner has feelings for another person or is unhappy with your relationship, your text thread with them can offer you clues. So while it could be helpful to take a magnifying glass to your partner's latest emoji choices, Huerta suggests the best thing to do if you suspect your partner is cheating on you is to check in with your gut.
Huerta says, "Your gut is a built-in mechanism that has evolved to keep you safe, and it's important to listen to your inner compass if something feels off. " And of course, you can communicate your concerns and suspicions to your boo over text, but we all know that texts can be misinterpreted, so consider talking to them IRL instead. Huerta agrees, "If you feel like something is off or different based on your text convos, it's a clear sign that you should talk about it in person." So if you notice any of the below changes in your text habits with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it might be time to have a face-to-face chat about what's really going on.