All too often, all it takes to crush on someone is to be attracted to them. While there's nothing wrong with catching feelings for someone, even someone totally suited for you, transitioning into a deeper relationship often requires more than just attraction. You'll also need compatibility. So, if you're seeing signs you and your crush aren’t emotionally compatible, it's probably time to stop and reevaluate whether or not taking this crush to the next level is really going to be what's best for you.
But what does it mean to be emotionally compatible, anyway? According to Dr. LeslieBeth Wish, nationally recognized clinical psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author ofTraining Your Love Intuition, it's all about feeling safe enough to be yourself with someone. "There is no definitive definition for that quality, but you know you have it when you feel happy, comfortable, accepted, understood, and aligned with your partner regarding qualities such as shared values, respect for each other, and joy and a sense of ease of being together," she previously told Elite Daily.
For Susan Winter, NYC relationship expert, love coach, and author ofBreakup Triage: The Cure for Heartache, emotional compatibility comes down to whether or not you and your crush are able to communicate and speak the same emotional language. "Healthy relationships require free-flowing communication," she tells Elite Daily. "Lacking the ability to express ourselves means we'll be suppressing our feelings and our needs. There's no conflict resolution without clear communication."
While that makes sense, how can you tell if that's something you have with your crush? The answer to that question is easier than you might think. Here's how Winter says you can tell whether or not you're emotionally compatible early on.