Whether it's because you've just never been a casual dater or because you've casually dated so much that you've finally hit your limit, the fact of the matter is you're no longer looking for something light and easy. You're officially now only interested in finding the real deal and you can find partners who are also interested in finding that by sending the following messages:
1. "What's your schedule looking like this week? You seem like someone I'd want to hang with IRL." First of all, hanging out IRL is no easy feat these days — so that's impressive. Second, this message is cutting to the chase. It's not dilly-dallying and it's not getting you in the dreaded text loop where the two of you chat for weeks on end but never ask each other out. If the person is down, you'll go on a date. If not, you'll move forward without having wasted your time.
2. "You free [day of the week you have something going on with friends]? I'm going to this [event] and would love a date if you're down!" If this person is going to be a serious partner, you're going to have to make sure they're able to keep up with your friends and family. So why not throw them in the line of fire right off the bat? Invite them to an event you have going on and see how they react. If they're down to tag along and act as a great date, you may have just found yourself a great potential partner.
3. "I'm looking for something serious, does that at all interest you?" If you're looking for something serious, it's important that you're only talking to people who are also looking for something serious. One of the best ways to do that is by just asking right off the bat. If someone doesn't respond, avoids the question, or just blatantly responds that they want something casual, then you can move on with minimal time wasted.
4. "It's this exact day in the year 2045. What are you up to?" A huge part of being in a serious relationship is having similar goals and values. There's no quicker way to find out what a person's goals and values are than asking them what their life is going to look like almost 25 years from now. Are they married? Do they have kids? Do they think they're going to be dead because the world is ending? Get a feel for whether or not they're worthy of a substantial relationship by asking this question.
5. "Favorite Netflix show? GO." I mean, let's face it. If you wind up dating this person, a lot of what the two of you will be doing together is lounging on the couch watching shows. So why not make sure you're into the same stuff right off the bat?
OK, now go forth and swipe!