The Science Of Pillow Talk: Sex Makes You More Likely To Tell Secrets

by Gillian Fuller
Beatrix Boros

Casual sex may be your ticket into a real relationship, according to a new study — so long as you're getting off.

According to researchers from the University of Connecticut, people are more likely to share important or personal information with their partners post-orgasm, ultimately leading to deeper connections.

Researchers, including lead author Dr. Amanda Denes, believe that the post-romp oxytocin release is to thank for this newfound openness.

Oxytocin, for the unfamiliar, is a hormone associated with promoting feelings of love, intimacy and connectedness.

Denes said,

Post-coital communication is likely linked to sexual and relationship satisfaction. For this reason, pillow talk may play a pivotal role in maintaining intimacy.

But — and this is a big but — alcohol cannot be involved.

If you've been drinking prior to sex, you're more likely to blurt out something unintentionally, according to Denes, often less positive than if you'd been sober.

Co-author Tamara Afifi confirms,

People who drink more alcohol, on average, perceive fewer benefits to disclosing information to their partners.

However, the authors do note this information tends to be less important than the information shared between couples after (sober) sex.

It is unclear how the study authors came to these conclusions — data was not immediately available — but the findings aren't too surprising.

Some people can have “no strings” sex, but most of us end up developing feelings sooner or later.

Now we know why.

Citations: Sex and orgasms make you more likely to reveal deep secrets (Daily Mail)