Everyone wants to be successful, and everyone’s definition of success is different. Regardless of the definition, the goal is to go from where you are to where you want to be.
Unfortunately, more people will fail at becoming successful than will succeed. Why? Well, whenever someone ventures onto a journey in life where he or she is trying to achieve something great, there are so many obstacles and situations that will come in the way.
Let’s be honest: If success were easy, everybody would achieve it. The problem is most people lose sight of their goals because the obstacles become too large for them to handle.
Keeping these three things in mind can help you to succeed and keep you in perspective:
Know it’s going to be hard
Success is not easy; most people have this false perception of what they think it’s supposed to look like and when they run into the first sign of difficulty or unexpected factors, they're discouraged and feel like it may not be the right path to take.
So, they turn around and try to pursue something different. Successful people go through the same challenges unsuccessful people do; the only difference is how they respond to it.
Instead of becoming discouraged, successful people find alternate ways to prevail over the situation. They try over and over and over again until it works.
Understanding and embracing the fact that it’s going to be hard allows you to maneuver through the obstacles more effectively. It allows you to take the emotion out of the situation and deal with it more logically, like a jigsaw puzzle.
Sure, failing at something temporary can be a little scary, but that’s why it takes courage. Winston Churchill once said,
Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.
Do you have what it takes to learn from every failure and continue on with a new solution with the same attitude with which you started? If you do, you will inevitably succeed.
Surround yourself with the right people who are going to help you get ahead
You are the sum of the five people you hang out with the most. When we grow up, we are the sum of the people who raised us and influenced us.
If you want to become successful in a certain industry, you need to surround yourself with those who are already where you want to be.
Find those people who are already successful in that endeavor and follow their guidance. It doesn’t make sense to take career advice from someone who doesn’t have the career you want.
At the same time, you have to surround yourself with people who support you and uplift you. The hardest thing in the world is to try to pursue something in your life when everyone you know is not in support of it.
Ultimately, you need to understand this is YOUR life, and only YOU should be the deciding factor of how it turns out. Those who matter shouldn’t mind, and those that mind shouldn’t matter.
If you truly have a passion for something great in your life and you know you need to pursue it, the right people will be placed in your life to help you; the wrong people will unfortunately only be there for a season.
Sometimes, the only way to move forward is to let go of the people holding you back. Your future self will thank you later.
Continue to work on yourself
Entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn, once said,
Success is not something you pursue. It’s something you attract by the person that you become.
Success is neither a destination nor an end point; it’s the constant accumulation of the development of you. Everything you have right now is because of who you are and the decisions you’ve made in your life all the way up until this given moment.
If you want more, you need to become more! If you could handle and sustain more, you would have more. But, the truth of the matter is, you can only have in your life the things and the relationships that are on the same frequency as you.
Everything in life is energy; energy attracts or repels, and you can’t expect to have a successful life with an unsuccessful mindset. You can’t make a million dollars if you don’t have a million-dollar mindset.
When Napoleon Hill wrote, "Think and Grow Rich," he spent 20 years researching the most successful people on the planet at the time. He realized that everyone he was interviewing thought alike and had the same habits.
They weren’t raised in a certain neighborhood, and they didn’t study a certain topic. They were all from different walks of life and different parts of the world, but they all shared the same mindset and looked at things the same way.
Their habits were the same, and their response to adversity was the same. So, it’s safe to say success is a mindset. Mentality equals ability; the rest is just time and effort.
When you continue to work on yourself and your mindset, you will start to attract better things into your life at every level you continue to pursue. You will also attract likeminded people who share the same goals and ambitions as you.
Constantly take an honest inventory of yourself, your attitude, your work ethic and your habits, and be an active player in making sure you are continually becoming better at being you. Don’t wish for things to be easier, wish for you to be better.
Having these three points in mind while chasing your success are very important. Keeping things in perspective while your journey takes you up and down will allow you to always be in the right position to make the right decision.
It’s easy to lose sight of the goal when obstacles come our way. Having a strong focus on your goals, understanding and embracing that it’s going to be challenging, surrounding yourself with the right people and continuing to work on yourself are all things that can make the ride easier and ultimately more enjoyable.