8 Ways To Cope When Being Over Him Doesn't Sound As Good As Being With Him

by Alexa Mellardo

Sometimes, a breakup is exactly what you need.

Yes, it feels like a hard slap across the face right now. That sting is strong AF, and the only comfort you want is with the person who is no longer yours.

It's incredibly difficult to face the heart-wrenching reality that things between the two of you are officially over.

But, I promise you, these feeling are only temporary.

Accepting this, along with learning how to cope with the pain, are two hardships of their own.

Time does heal all wounds, if you give it a chance. Even though it may feel like your world is crumbling beneath you, things will be OK.

Here are eight ways to cope when being over him doesn't sound as good as being with him.

1. Don't rush into anything with someone new just to fill the void.

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It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to him. For all you know, this new guy may have potential down the road, but you'll ruin it by rushing into things for all the wrong reasons.

2. Take a break from social media.

Take a step back to cleanse both your mind and your heart. You won't see anything that's going on in his life for a bit, and that's exactly what you need to heal.

3. Resist the temptation to contact him.

You ended things for a reason, so keep your head on straight and stay strong.

4. Fill up your time with things and people you enjoy.

It will take your mind off of the breakup, and it'll feel so refreshing to bring some happiness back into your life.

Meet up for as many coffee dates and boozy brunches with your gal pals as you can, or get involved in that yoga class you always wanted to sign up for. Your time is all yours now, so make the most of it.

5. Don't feel sorry for yourself; it will get you nowhere fast.

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Sure, you're allowed to feel crummy at first, but don't make a habit out of drowning your sorrows in Ben & Jerry's and Netflix every single day when you come home from work.

6. Don't let the fear of being without him get in the way of what's truly in your heart.

Again, there's a reason (or multiple reasons) why you guys are over. It's time to listen to your heart, without letting any fears of missing him control you.

7. Quit dwelling on what was, and focus on what could be.

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It's not healthy to dwell on anything that didn't work out, or anyone who did you wrong. Keep your head up, focus on being positive, and keep your eyes on present and future possibilities.

8. Give yourself the chance to be free and out of a relationship for awhile.

You need time to focus on yourself and recharge, with no commitments attached.

It may not happen immediately, but you will find an incredible connection again with someone else one day. But in order to do so, you need to take that first leap forward into the unknown.

And remember: Don't look back.