12 Ridiculous Questions You Should Really Stop Asking Twins
There is a lot to be said about twins.
They are double the trouble.
They are the two things in life you are truly never prepared for.
When people say they want twins, they must be saying they want five kids because that’s the amount of work needed to raise two babies at once.
Most parents of twins would agree they can be a hassle.
But, they would also say twins are double the joy.
Let me start off by saying being a twin is the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me.
My twin sister is truly and undoubtedly my best friend.
I feel totally blessed to have this as part of my identity.
It’s also true what they say: The special relationship between twins shows if there's anyone else in the world who is going to be the confidant you need, it's your twin.
Your twin is your number one fan.
You know that no matter what happens in life, your bond will forever be solid.
It is said twins have a special relationship.
They feel safer with each other than with their peers.
I can certainly attest to this.
I mean, we were stuck naked together for nine months in our mom’s womb.
We better feel safe together.
We really had no other option.
Being a twin really makes you who you are as an individual.
Being a twin also undoubtedly sets you up for some ridiculous and repetitive questions and statements that really just need to be put to rest.
Here are 12 of them:
1. “It must be so fun to share everything. You must have double the outfit choices and never have a day where you struggle with what to wear!”
Yes, having double the closet space and double the clothes is something twins can usually take advantage of.
It is something we surely take pride in.
Being able to have a large selection of items to choose from in the morning is one heck of a deal.
But take a moment and really imagine what this is like.
Do you think it's all rainbows and fluffy unicorns when your favorite clothes just somehow appear in your sister’s room in a bundle on the floor?
Or worse, on her body, in a picture she posted on Instagram after she spent the night out at the bar and got tons of compliments on it?
It’s not always everything it’s cracked up to be.
We make it work, though.
We are forever grateful to have this small, but nice perk in our lives.
2. “What about men?”
What? What about them?
You know you've heard it all before.
That little saying goes something like, “Twins have more fun.”
If we have a rule for anything, it is most certainly this one.
Sharing guys to that extent (or really any extent at all) is totally not cool, and it honestly skeeves us out a bit.
The general rule of thumb is no sharing dudes.
It's as simple as that.
Now, I can’t say twins go their entire lives without kissing the same guy.
But as a general rule of thumb, don’t ask this question.
You’re just going to look like an idiot, especially if you are a guy.
However, if my sister had the opportunity to get with Channing Tatum, I would expect this rule to change.
3. “I’m sure you guys tell each other everything.”
Well, yes and no.
If we're going back to the “getting with guys” topic, I will just say keeping the juicy, risqué details to a minimum is how we like it.
Personal details are meant to stay personal.
That being said, you couldn’t ask for a better listener, a better advice-giver or a better supporter.
Ultimately, it’s likely you can tell your twin anything, and he or she she will have your back, no matter how personal the story may be.
4. “Do you have the same birthday?”
I’m sorry, what?
You would think this kind of question would annoy us.
For most twins, it probably does.
However, you just start to feel super sorry for whoever asks this question.
5. “Can you read each other’s minds? What is she thinking right now, at this exact moment? I know you know.”
What are we, aliens?
Yes, it’s true.
Twins are known to share a bond that can be incomprehensible to most people.
For my sister and I — as different as each of our personalities may be — our humor could not be more similar.
For instance, when twins witness the same thing, there's a high probability they will react in the same way, simply because they have grown up together in the same environment and have experienced a lot of the same things.
We may even say the same thing at the exact same time.
It’s quite the laugh.
But no, we aren’t telepathic.
Our senses are very much alike.
I guess this is as close to being telepathic as it gets.
If we hear a song, watch a movie or remember something from the past, we both totally know we are thinking about it in the same way, no questions asked.
But no, I can’t see into her brain and pull apart every brainwave to understand her exact thoughts.
I’m not sure I would even want to. (Yikes.)
6. “Can your parents tell you apart?”
Hold up, what?
You really think parents can't tell their own children apart?
I'm not sure if I should continue to rant or leave it at that.
Not to jab any parents out there, but if you can’t tell your own children apart from one another, I think you may need to invest in some glasses or re-evaluate your life.
I think I am speaking for all twins when I say this.
Our parents know the both of us to a T, and we are extremely fortunate to call our parents two of our best friends.
They may even know us better than we know ourselves.
7. “Which one are you?”
Not only is this offensive, but it’s also pretty dumb.
If you don’t know which twin is which, there's a good chance the twins don’t really know you, either.
Yeah, we may have seen you before, but do you really know someone who can’t tell if you are a different person?
8. “Hey! It's the twins!”
Okay, so we actually have grown to secretly like and semi-approve of this because in all honesty, we love being twins.
But if you are just meeting a set of twins and haven't even tried to take the chance to get to know them, I highly suggest you stay away from this phrase.
9. “Are you identical or fraternal?”
For some reason, people always want to know whether twins are identical or fraternal.
The thing is, in most cases, they don’t even know the difference between the two words.
It's as if they think one answer is better than the other.
I know what you’re thinking: This question is pretty normal, and it's somewhat valid to ask of a set of twins.
But when people ask this question, my sister and I actually have to reply by saying, “We don’t know.”
Because really, we do not know.
Our parents never found out when we were born.
Quite honestly, a lot of twins don’t truly know if they are identical or not.
I think parents of twins are far too excited about the fact they were just able to produce two healthy babies to worry about this minuscule detail.
10. “But, you look alike. You must be identical.”
We reply, “Okay,” even though we both want to tell the person to go back to middle school health class.
There are actually many different factors in determining whether twins are identical or fraternal.
Quite honestly, if you ever hear a set of twins tell you they are identical (which we do think we are), it’s probably just to end the conversation (in the nicest way possible, of course).
11. “Did you guys switch places to confuse your teachers?”
Has anyone ever actually done this?
Okay, most twins have tried this trick at least once.
We tried to swap desks in the second grade, but we totally chickened out before the teacher noticed.
12. “Which one is better at sports? Which one is more outgoing?”
I think I can speak for all twins when I say we just don't compare.
Luckily for us, our parents were very much into raising us as separate, individualized human beings.
It was very important for them to make us feel different because truly, that’s what we are.
However, if someone wants to compare me to my sister, I am totally okay with that.
This is because she is my person, my rock and my number one supporter.
She is the girl who knows me better than I know myself.
She can read my mind in the most “non-alien” way possible.
She is super independent, brave and quite the looker.
I would never take her for granted or get tired of hearing I share certain traits with her.
Honestly, this is what you should ask a twin: Having a twin sister is probably the coolest, most unique and best thing to ever happen to you, right?
That’s right. That is so right.
You know each other's motives, you feel each other's disappointments and you may even live vicariously through each other's achievements and enjoyments.
Having a twin sister is probably the coolest, most unique and best thing to ever happen to me.