Why A Second Chance With Someone Who Hurt You Is Rarely Worth The Risk

by Anne Cohen
Sanja (Lydia) Kulušić

It goes without saying that it's important to try to avoid causing people pain. Whether they're people you know or whether they're total strangers, hurting other people in any way is wrong.

Having said that, sometimes, we're the ones who get hurt. When people cause us pain in life, we handle it in different ways. We can get down and depressed about how we're made to feel. We can become bitter, hateful and resent them, or we can recognize we didn't deserve the pain and empower ourselves to overcome it.

It's important that we never let people bring us down mentally, emotionally or psychologically. In the same way you shouldn't hurt other people, you shouldn't let them hurt you either. You shouldn't give people the power or opportunity to hurt you.

But sometimes, it's not always in our own hands when it comes to people hurting us. It's important to have an open heart and be a loving and genuine individual. But we should also be cautious with the people we open our hearts to.

When people take advantage of us in any way – whether it's our love, our giving hearts or by having us do endless favors for them – it's important to pick and choose who we do all of the above for. Everyone doesn't deserve your love, and everyone definitely doesn't deserve second chances after he or she has hurt you.

You need to decide who's worth fighting for, and who's worth giving a second chance to. Either way, you should protect yourself by going into these situations with caution.

When people hurt you through the things they say or do, you can either forgive them and let it go, bottle it up and implode your feelings or be angry at them for what they've done. Why give someone that much power over your emotions when he or she doesn't deserve it?

You should never let someone control you through the pain he or she has caused you. In other words, it's important to keep your guard up and protect yourself when you see that someone is hurting you.

If you're dating someone, or are even friends with someone who has any type of physical or emotional problem that he or she can't change, then there's really no need to bring it up. Bringing it up will only cause the person pain, and he or she might even be sensitive to this problem. No one is perfect, and if you truly care about someone, you should avoid hurting him or her at all costs.

When people hurt you over and over again, you need to recognize that what they're doing is wrong and toxic. It's up to you whether or not you give someone an opportunity to hurt you twice.

When someone hurts you one time, it's usually unpredictable and unexpected. You need to be strong enough to recognize when someone isn't right for you in a relationship or even as a friend, and end the situation as soon as possible.

You shouldn't put yourself in a situation that could cause you any pain, discomfort or stress. You need to love yourself enough to care how other people are making you feel. No one is supposed to be anyone's savior or superhero. If someone is hurting you too much, don't even try to be there for him or her.

True friends and healthy relationships should never be one-sided or compromise the integrity of your well-being. If you see that a situation is toxic and you wind up being the one who keeps getting hurt, you should definitely close the door to that situation completely.

Remember: A true friend or partner in life would never want to cause you pain or hurt you in any way. Someone who actually cares about you will be selfless and loving. A true friend gives you hope and love, and knows the importance of good communication in your relationship.

Good communication never involves hurting someone. If anything, it involves learning how to talk and express yourself without hurting the person. If your friend, lover or partner in life isn't willing to communicate with you in a healthy way, you need to end the situation. You should seriously consider letting the door hit this person on the way out.