Should I Contact My Ex This Summer?

If you're contemplating reaching out to your ex this summer, know you're probably not alone.

Whether it's the warm sunshine, or the beautiful opportunity for new experiences, our hearts cave in to the temptation to embrace love.

Speaking about the ways of the heart; they're not always straight arrow. In fact, summer, along with a bleeding heart, can have you tracking backwards.

As much as it would be easy to blame those urges to re-connect with an ex on getting too much sun, those excuses never hold.

Before you go undoing the past, be sure to ask yourself a few reflective questions.

1. Is This My Liquid Courage Talking?

Liquid courage is a no-no if it has to do with re-connecting with an ex. I can tell you from experience that revealing anything after a few drinks is super wrapped in emotional confusion.

You will wake up the next day wishing those messy statements had remained repressed... forever.

2.  Will This Do More Damage Than Good?

Believe it or not, reaching out to an ex may very well be a selfish act. You might be longing to fulfill whatever closure, excitement, or curiosity for yourself.

You can't let that feeling overshadow your analysis of whether this will be a smooth or bumpy road to redemption.

3. Did The Relationship End On Good Or Bad Terms?

Don't get stuck in the idea there will be some fairytale ending to your want to rekindle an old flame.

It's smart to analyze all of the components of the situation, and that includes the not-so-pretty portion of your relationship.

Noted psychosexual and relationship therapist and co-founder of Pillow Couples AppKate Moyle, reveals to Elite Daily,

4. Is This Ex Seeing Someone Else?

If you haven't already dipped into the other unappealing emotions, jealousy could be a catalyst for your want to re-connect.

You could also be creating this fictional ending where it's just the two of you in the picture, and realistically, it could be too late for that.

Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist and author of relationship blog,, reveals,

5. Is This A Solo Or Group Decision?

Friends are great, but oftentimes, they weigh in on things that will not affect them, only you.

Be sure that this important decision is as solo as those red beer pong cups.

6. Is The Attempt Genuine Or Summer Fling-Influenced?

You might feel a little bit of FOMO if you're the only one who's not banking on that summer romance. But, think before you use that as an excuse to open an old wound that could ultimately be detrimental.

Summer has both positive and negative affects on how we handle our love life.

As New York-based relationship and etiquette expert and author, April Masini, puts it, people tend to be "more social" in the summer. The season leads to the potential for some sizzling romance.

Masini reveals,

7. What Would Be Different?

If you are genuinely trying to get back with your ex, you have to consider how this time around would be different. There's rarely time for repetition in life; it's all about growth and change.

Dating and relationships expert, licensed marriage and family therapist, and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love, Anita Chlipala reveals,

According to Chlipala, often it is not just our contemplation of what could have been different, but what we're missing emotionally. She continues,

Don't let your first instinct of re-connecting with an ex be your only reasoning. There's a lot to consider, and you should pay the respect to yourself and all involved by putting that into perspective.