I’ve read article after article over the last two years that emphasized the perks of not giving a f*ck.
Higher self-esteem and general happiness are the biggest sells, which are pretty good reasons to give any theory an honest try.
It seems not caring is truly in vogue. I’m guilty of it on several accounts, and I'll be the first to tell you there is a downside to that ever-seductive cry of indifference.
Here are just a few times I clearly and wholeheartedly didn’t give a f*ck, and how it damn near ruined my life:
1. Ruining a friendship.
I lost a really good friend by not giving a f*ck about her desire to ever see me. I was too tired, busy, lazy and selfish, and I assumed she would just “get it.” I miss her.
2. Missing out on potential relationships.
A guy did me dirty, therefore I didn't give a f*ck about the next four boys who tried to break through. They were supposed to wait for me to get over it and coach me through it. They have lives and feelings, too? My bad.
3. Taking my education for granted.
I didn’t give a f*ck about non-major classes in college. Now I kind of wish I hadn’t slept through that comp engineering course because I’d probably be able to pay my Con Edison bill now.
4. Shutting people out.
I don’t give a f*ck about your apology, and you are not forgiven! Now, go live your life while my heart turns black and bitter.
5. Burning bridges.
I never gave a f*ck about other people’s opinions, which is both good and bad. It's good because I have a strong sense of self, but it's bad because I could have avoided a lot of pain if I hadn't been so damn hardheaded.
6. Losing my job.
Why would I curse at my boss? That seems pretty stupid, but so what? I don’t give a f*ck what your position is, you will not disrespect me in a room full of my peers! What? Oh, I misheard you? It was a compliment? I’m fired? Well, if that’s the case.
7. Trying to roll with it.
Time to light up! I don't give a f*ck what's in it, so just pass it. I'm sure it's only weed, right? Yeah, I trust you. I trust y—
8. Missing job opportunities.
Time to hit the job market. I’m an artist looking to be hired by other artists. I don’t give a f*ck about a drug test because I’ve had a hard week! Didn’t you hear I was fired? But I have an interview with a really dope company coming up. Wait, what’s LabCorp? What’s this cup for? Why are you showing me the bathroom?
9. Pissing off my neighbors.
These neighbors better learn I don’t give a f*ck about their nine-t0-fives because I work my own hours.
If I want to have a private party with just me and Meek Mill’s loud-ass sermons, they’ll just have to deal with it. Oh, so you’re just going to put me out? Okay, my bad. It was all Meek’s fault, I swear!
This is, unfortunately, just a taste of several “when keeping it real goes wrong” moments from my life, and yes, all of them stemmed from my general "don’t give a f*ck" attitude.
I’m not saying you should always put other people’s opinions, wants and needs ahead of your own, but there is such a concept as being considerate.
It's something many could argue young people forgo in an effort to do what’s best for themselves in the moment as opposed to doing what is right.
There will be times when those two things simply don’t line up, and a choice has to be made. I clearly made the wrong decision several times, but I suppose it took me not giving a f*ck for years to realize it’s actually okay to care sometimes.