How To Emotionally Prepare For Moving To A City Where You Don't Know Anyone
Moving to a city where you don't know anyone feels like an adrenaline rush, right?
It's a chance to reinvent yourself and break away from who you've been. A new adventure; a new start.
Or maybe it sounds scary? That excited feeling in your gut is also coupled with nerves. That little voice inside your head says makes you wonder if the risk will be worth it.
Moving to a new city forces you to find out exactly who you are and who you want to be.
What are the things you've always wanted to do? What was holding you back from doing those things? Was it a relationship? Your family? Your friends?
Here's how you move to a city where you don't know anyone: You just do it.
Do your research.
Ask your friends and family for connections already living in that city and see if you can pick their brain.
Ask questions. Where are the best places to live? What is the vibe in that neighborhood like? Why do they love that city?
See if you could visit and do a test run. Use the internet. Find local blogs to read.
And when you read too many blogs, the information seems to be clogging your brain and you start to panic about the idea of moving, don't panic just yet. Calm yourself and make more plans.
Join groups or organizations.
What are some things you've always wanted to try? Stand-up comedy? Volunteering? An intramural soccer team?
Chances are if you get involved with something you're already interested in, you're bound to meet potential friends or people to start networking with.
Try searching through social media. You'd be surprised how much cyber stalking on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram can you help you out here.
Before you know it, you'll have a list of groups to try out. It's one of the best ways to start meeting people.
Take advantage of opportunities.
Be open to saying "yes" to new experiences. If someone invites you to a new restaurant, a play or a concert, take them up on the offer (even if you hate dining out, can't stand plays and are more of a Spotify kind of person).
You aren't going to get anywhere if you don't try. The key to moving to a new city is to not let your fear stop you from branching out.
Be comfortable with doing things alone.
If you can't find anyone to explore with, do it alone. Be comfortable with yourself.
In the meantime, you'll start learning how to better yourself and learn more about what scares you and why.
Why does eating at a restaurant alone make you feel self-conscious? You're about to find out.
Give yourself time.
There's going to be times when you feel like you made a mistake or you feel lost, but stick with it. In the end, you can always go back to what you know.
But you can't go back to what you don't know.
The whole experience is a process. If you give up too quickly because things aren't working out, it will only make you scared to try something new again.
When you give yourself at least a year in a new place, you allow yourself to settle into a routine. You get a better idea of the lay of the land and start to build your network.
I promise, if you just give it time, you'll come into your own.
Remember, you're not alone.
The ups and downs of moving are normal. The "OMG I made a mistake" and "I can't do this" feelings are bound to come up in the midst of all these life-altering changes.
You don't need to be embarrassed; you took a risk. No one can judge you for taking a chance and still feeling overwhelmed.
Talk to your friends and family for support when you start to feel like you're questioning your choice.
There's nothing like moving to a new city to make you question yourself. It's about having that freedom to figure out who you are and how you're going to get there.
Once you escape your bubble, your old perspectives start to break down and you begin to form new ones.
Sooner or later, you'll be thriving on change and wondering which city you'll fall in love with next.