Sometimes, I feel inches away from throwing in the towel. Enough is enough; I’m done. I walk away and take a breather, but I always come back. Failure is an option; giving up is not.
I’ve been told that if you stop at the first sign of resistance, you might just not want something badly enough. Well, it’s another story when you’re at the 27th sign of resistance, evaluating whether or not you’re doing it all wrong or if you even know what you’re doing in the first place.
Struggle is generally not glamorous when it’s real, but settling for something less than the best of yourself is a weak reward for your hard work. I know it’s difficult when you can count the miles it took to get to where you are, but you can’t see how many more lay ahead. It’s then that the temptation to stop trying is strongest.
While you should be open to changing your goals as life highlights your strengths, you should keep trying, even after feeling like a failure. Most people give up at this point. It's the people who keep after their goals through the highs and lows who succeed.
Look no further for a reminder that you can do it. It’s going to be okay. You got this — here's why:
It’s within your reach.
You’ve put in the work and you can see the end game. Now, you just have to get there.
You believe in yourself. You know you’re capable.
Confidence is key. Lady Gaga can wear a meat suit and still look people in the eye. If Katy Perry stopped after the first time she shot whipped cream out of her boobs or Steven Spielberg gave up filmmaking after being rejected from USC (more than once), think about what society would have missed.
Nelson Mandela fought social injustice in South Africa. Julia Child started cooking in her 30s. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that didn’t work.
If you want to be a writer, you better be writing. If you want to make violins, you better be an apprentice. If you want to invent a new type of cheese, I don’t really know what you should be doing, but I’m sure you do. Take the steps you know you need to make in order to be prepared.
Think about whether you are actually making efforts to actively do what you want to be doing instead of waiting around for someone to tell you you can do it. If you aren’t, do it on your own time, until you can turn it into something you do for a living.
You still want to fight the good fight, even when you’re low on hope.
Are you really sure that what you’re trying to do isn’t for you? Or, are you looking for any reason to keep at it?
If you have hope, dedication and work ethic, then who’s to say you should stop trying?
You can separate your emotions from the effort and make smart decisions.
Basing your decisions on your feeling will mislead you. Sometimes, emotions get confused with fear — our preconceived notions of what we’re supposed to be doing versus where we are in life, other quick reactions and cold feet.
Take a step back and assess what is in front of you. Use the facts to inform your decisions. Feelings are important, but they shouldn’t rule your reactions.
Something tells you to keep going.
Drive. Make your time matter. Compel yourself to reach your goal. Put in the necessary effort.
There is a voice inside your head that sings, “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming... swimming... swimming.”
Those who matter are still supportive.
Having a support system is important. A support system is a shoulder to cry on, people to bounce ideas off of and a network that understands what you’re trying to do.
When you trust someone, you trust his or her opinions about what you’re doing. You don’t have to agree, but it’s something to value and use informatively. These people can be honest with you, which means you should listen. If these people give you the green light, it will help you to keep going.