Let’s all be quite frank and honest with one another. Humans are not the smartest species on planet earth. We do stupid things, we say stupid things and we think stupid things. But one of the dumbest things that we actually do in our lives is depend on other people. We don't realize we can only depend on, or trust in, ourselves.
We do it everyday without even knowing it. We depend on other people to make us happy when we venture out looking for love. What we don't realize is that first we must be happy with our lives, and ourselves so that the other person only enriches us further, a complement to our life that is parallel with it.
People are afraid to look at the mirror in life, they are afraid to accept the truth about themselves and about what is going on; thus, they take the easy way out, just like they do with everything else, and depend on others for happiness, opportunities and a better life.
What they don't realize is that they are doing themselves a disservice. It happens so much that it is almost impossible to stop. By depending on others, not trusting yourself and hoping for a miracle to happen -- you will end up miserable for the rest of your life. You need to wake up and smell the coffee as the old saying goes.
No one is going to do anything for you. No one is going to help you when you need it most. Your friends will disappear and the people you thought you loved will walk out on you. Humanity is so afraid of being alone and looks at it as such a negative thing, because we don't know how to trust ourselves and depend on ourselves. That is why we become depressed and feel like our lives will never amount to anything.
You need to start getting to know yourself, start understanding who you really are and start trusting your own judgments and decisions, because ultimately, that is what will shape your destiny. We let insecurities and judgments play such a big role in our lives, but what we don't realize is that those things don't have anything to do with us. They are purely opinions and a lion never listens to the opinions of sheep.
If there is one thing you will learn, the hard way or the easy way, is that when all is said and done, the only person you can trust is yourself. Everyone has different motives and no matter how close they are to you, they will disappear as fast as they came in when you need them most.
There will be points in your life where you hit rock bottom, where you feel alone, but instead of losing your mind and thinking you are worthless, you need to take that time to understand the only person you have: yourself. So why not understand how to deal with yourself, your problems and the situations around you, so that you can excel in life.
When you depend on others you are giving them a power over something that they should not have power: your life. My grandpa always used to tell me, “You never let another man borrow your girl or your car, and when you depend on others, you are letting them borrow your life.”
Take control of your own destiny and realize that you are the one that is going to get yourself where you want to go -- not anyone else. There is no golden road to follow, and there are no handouts -- so stop depending on them.
Stop looking for advice or the secret formula to life. When I walk on the street, all I see are miserable faces who can't hate their lives more than they already do…and that is because they depend on other people for happiness. They don't trust themselves and have been pigeonholed into a life they hate, because there is no self-awareness, self-decision or self-trust.
Lastly, it all comes down to you knowing you. You, and no one else, can understand or make what you want out of your life. The only person that will meet you at the end of the tunnel after it's all said and done, is yourself. The only person you can depend on is you and the only person you can trust is you. When you don't understand that, you’ll lead a life full of questions without answers. The choice is ultimately yours.
Preston Waters | Elite.