Life is really all about the people you choose to spend it with. Some of these people push you to be the best version of yourself, while others drag you down or hold you back.
Due to a mix of envy, jealousy, confusion or lack of personal ambition, some people don’t want to see others succeed. Watching those around them succeed means they are failing, and this attitude is toxic.
By identifying the following attributes in the people you choose to spend your time with, your relationships will be more mutually beneficial and happy, and help forge the path to inevitable success.
A worthy adversary, a challenger and a person worth your time, love and effort is the only type of person you should associate with. You can recognize this type of person when he or she is all of the following:
Someone who challenges you
We all like to be comfortable; it’s a beautiful feeling of relief and consolation, like finally getting into your own warm bed after a long, rough day.
However, comfort is not always a good thing. We can easily become too comfortable in today’s world of instant gratification. This level of comfort can often lead us to settle, and that needs to be avoided at all costs. This is why we need to surround ourselves with others who will not let us get too comfortable.
Your girlfriend and friends should always be challenging you to be a better person. They should aid you and push you to reach your full potential, question your decisions, provoke your thoughts and support your actions.
Someone you can see a future with
Life is short, so don’t waste time; you wont get it back. You should be able to see yourself grow with the people you surround yourself with. Getting high school drunk with your boys every weekend, or having meaningless fights with a girlfriend isn’t cool anymore and needs to stop.
Having similar goals and ambitions as your boyfriend or girlfriend not only increases your compatibility, but also increases the likelihood of achieving them.
If you surround yourself with like-minded people who want the same things out of life that you do, you will help each other achieve your dreams and ambitions.
Someone you respect and trust
Respect and trust goes hand in hand, and really, these are the most important things. It is essential to have respect for the people you are close with. Expect and hope they tell you the truth and are real with you. Blind encouragement, or passive-aggressive conflict resolution can destroy relationships.
We need those we trust and respect to always tell us the truth, even if it is hard to hear. Respect and trust are the foundations of love, stability and success.
Relationships that have these components are meaningful if both or all people involved are very invested in the overall success and not selfishly using each other for personal gain.
We are the company we keep; so analyze your relationships and make sure the people you spend time with challenge you to be a better person. Ask yourself if you truly respect and trust the other person, and overall if he or she will be a part of your future and grow alongside you.
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