If there’s one thing I’m truly passionate about, it’s the friendships I have in my life.
Yes, I’m that woman who is constantly reminding everyone my friends are “literally the best people in the whole world.”
It’s true, damn it.
My friends are amazing, and I feel lucky to have every single one of them in my life.
That’s why, while I have a deep love for my female best friends, I want to take a moment to focus on my guy best friends.
A friendship between a man and a woman is way different from a friendship between two women or two men.
It has to transcend things like shallow sexual attraction and completely opposite ways of thinking.
But when you get to that place where you have a strong, close and platonic friendship, a bond unlike any other is formed.
Throughout my life, I’ve met a few guys with whom I just instantly clicked.
We’ve had our fair share of drama and complications regarding feelings of more than just friendship at times, but we got past all that.
My friendships with these men have really matured.
These guys are now some of the most important people in my life.
Sure, people on the outside don’t always understand these friendships.
Our respective boyfriends or girlfriends have gotten jealous, and gal pals have started rumors because they couldn’t believe we really were just friends.
But there hasn’t been anything we've been unable to overcome.
My guy BFFs are some of the best friends I’ve ever had, and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
Here are just a few reasons why having best friends of the opposite sex makes my life way better than it would be without them:
1. I can “bro out” with them.
While there is a very girly side to me, I’ve also always been a bit of a tomboy.
Sometimes, I just want to spend the day stuffing my face with buffalo wings, watching football or playing video games for hours.
While some of my girl besties are down to pig out and lounge around with me once in a while, I know my guy friends are ready to do this at any given moment.
You’ll never hear a guy say he doesn’t want to order extra toppings on the pizza, or he’d rather not watch the new horror movie because there’s too much gore or nudity in it.
My guy friends are always down to throw a ball or Frisbee around on the beach when lying in the sun starts to get boring.
Just from listening to their conversations, I learn a ton about things like politics, cars and Quentin Tarantino, all of which I’d otherwise be clueless about.
A lot of my interests are more popular with guys than women, and I love having a group of male friends I can do these things with.
Also, because I’m so close and comfortable with my friends, I don’t feel like I have to put on a show or act overly feminine when we hang out.
I can have that fifth cookie if I want to.
I can wear my Yankees hat with a ponytail weaved through the back, and there won’t be anyone judging my appearance (although some trash talking about my team may occur).
When I’m with girls (or even guys I’m not very close to), I feel obligated to always look and act my best.
But with these guys, I don’t have to be on my best behavior because they aren’t going to be, either.
I never have to worry about an awkwardly harsh gossip session breaking out when I’m spending time with my guy friends.
Instead, I get to sit back and be amused by the sexual innuendos they can somehow insert into any conversation.
2. They give me perspective.
“What does this mean?”
This is a text message my guy friends have received from me over and over again, typically accompanied by a number of screenshots.
When I’m dealing with a confusing potential date or can’t see eye to eye with a current boyfriend, my male friends are the ones I turn to first to help me figure out the situation.
My girl friends are perfect for when I need to vent, be agreed with or feel like I’m not an absolute psycho.
But my guy friends are the ones who force me to really take a step back and see things from the other side.
If I really care about a person or situation, seeing things from their point of view is the best way I’ve found to resolve any issue.
My guy friends will tell me straight-up whether I’m overreacting, or whether I have a right to be mad.
They’ll tell me if it seems like a guy is genuinely interested and I’m just being paranoid, or if his behavior is something I should truly be worried about.
They don’t necessarily know everything about all members of their sex, but they know a hell of a lot more than I do.
Luckily for me, my guy friends are often willing to share this secret inside information with me.
3. They give me faith in the opposite sex.
No matter how many f*ckboys I encounter, I will never stop believing true gentlemen exist because I have a whole bunch of them in my life.
When I’m out with my guy friends, they open doors for me and offer me their jackets if I get cold.
They treat me to beer or ice cream, and they check in with me regularly to see how I’m doing and how things turned out with that stressful event I was telling them about.
I know I can count on them to stand up for me if I’m being mistreated or put in a situation where I feel uncomfortable.
My guy friends treat me very well and respectfully.
Whether it's coming from a romantic relationship or a friendship, being treated this way does wonders for a woman’s mood and self-esteem.
The fact they are so sweet in our friendship gives me faith I might someday find a guy who will do the same for me in a romantic relationship.
It reminds me good men really do exist, and those are the types of people I should have in my life.
My guy friends also open up to me from time to time, and we talk about the women they date.
Some of my favorite conversations with friends, both male and female, are the ones where I get to hear them gush over a new crush.
This is particularly heartwarming when it’s coming from one of my guy friends, both because it’s much rarer and because it proves men really do have softer sides to them.
The way some of my male friends talk about their girlfriends is the way all women want to be spoken about.
Any time I start to feel like men are heartless, cruel robots, I’ve got my guy BFFs to remind me there’s much more to a man than his hard exterior.