10 Reasons Dating An Alpha Isn’t As Intimidating As You Think

by Margaret Makrouhi
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In society, there are the alphas, betas and omegas. Alphas are dominant, but not aggressive.

They're confident, but not cocky. They're leaders, but not dictators. They're kind, but not people-pleasers or pushovers.

The alpha female isn’t the stereotypical queen bee, and the alpha male isn’t the stereotypical assh*le.

We are, however, unique in the following ways:

1. We are independent.

We do not seek relationships because we are afraid of being alone. We seek relationships because of the enjoyment of companionship and the fun of meeting someone new.

We want to show our raw, erotic passion.

2. We aren't afraid of walking away.

We never worry about breakups.

You want to break up with an alpha? He or she will accept your decision and continue on with life. An alpha wants to break up with you? He or she will say, "This isn't going to work," and it will be done.

We forget the ones who forget us. At the first sign of bad behavior or bullsh*t, we will drop you like a hot potato.

There's no looking back and no second chances.

3. We have boundaries.

It's all about our time, our emotions, our bodies, our lives and our rules.

You live in our reality, and we don't live in yours. We have places to go, people to see and sh*t to do. We are too busy.

If you want a relationship with an alpha, you must understand that we will make an amendment in our schedules for you, but we won't accommodate you.

4. We are loyal.

Cheating, backstabbing, talking sh*t and lying are not in our behavioral vocabulary.

There is nothing we will say behind your back that we won't say to your face.

In fact, we prefer to say it to your face. We want to see your body language and facial expressions when we call you out.

Cheating? An impossibility. As long as you have our respect, you have our loyalty.

We don't get out of situations in the middle of the night or by tiptoeing out the back door. If we want to exit a relationship, we are leaving in bright daylight, out the front door and with the loudest bang you have ever heard.

5. We socialize with other alphas.

Alphas recognize other alphas.

We instantly notice the people in control of their lives and emotions. Our friends are not just buddies we shoot the sh*t with. They are our consultants.

Our social engagements involve discussing the world, ideas, theories, studies and problems. Our interactions with our friends are enlightening. We gather new wisdom to better our lives and ourselves.

6. We have little to no respect for betas and omegas.

If you have been betrayed or lied to, and you are still with the person who did that to you, you are a beta or omega.

If you ever took someone back who dumped your ass, you are a beta or omega. If you compare your life to other people's lives, you are a beta or omega.

If you are intimidated by any person on this planet (from your boss to President Obama), you are a beta or omega. Alphas do not respect people who don't respect themselves.

It's as simple as that.

7. We educate ourselves.

Alphas learn. Alphas read.

Alphas have personal enrichments. Alphas do sh*t.

We don't sit on our asses and watch mindless TV shows (unless we've just launched a business plan or finished a 45-page dissertation, and we feel like we can do nothing for a few minutes).

We keep physically and mentally active. We prefer to date people who also have lives filled with engagements.

8. We have a voice.

Remember: Alphas are the leaders. If we have an opinion about something, we are going to say it loud and clear.

Do we like you? We will say it. Did you just piss us off? We will also say it.

Do we feel you want to say something, but are holding back? We will push you until you say it.

9. We are fearless.

Fear has no place in our world. Fear is nonexistent.

We are clever enough to understand that any human fear must be met with acceptance.

Batman, for example, was scared sh*tless of bats. So, what did he do? You guessed it.

He sat in a cave with thousands of bats swarming all over him until his fear lost all power.

He walked out of the cave in complete control. The same concept goes for dating.

A million worries can pop into your mind when you're dating or falling in love with someone, but the only thought you should have should be, “I’ll take the risk and accept the uncertainty."

10. You’ll never be the same again.

Once you date an alpha, you’ll never be the same again.

How can you? You have encountered a person who knows who he or she is. Alphas don't spoon-feed their problems or insecurities to you.

They don't expect (or even want) you to be the emancipator of their lives.

They have standards, strive to be the best version of themselves, live with principles, are respected by their fellow alphas and are admired by betas and omegas.

In other words, they will bring nothing but richness to your life. These riches don't involve status, money or power.

Instead, they include loyalty, love, passion, intelligence and dignity.