Why Spending Time Alone Is Good For You
At work, we're distracted by projects, our bosses and our co-workers.
Often, we build relationships with these people, and they soon become part of our extra-curricular lives. We eat lunch with them, go to happy hour with them and let them into our lives.
Then, we have our group of friends. They're the ones we eat ice cream with after a breakup, get dolled up to go clubbing with or simply stay in for the night with.
On top of this, we have our family whom we love to spend time with, and if that isn't enough, we're also trying to balance a life with a significant other.
When placed in such a hectic life, one often gets too caught up to have “me" time.
If you're someone who hasn't had "me" time in a long time, let me give you a couple reasons it is imperative to find the time to be alone.
1. Get stuff done.
We are the generation of procrastination. We love to wait until the last minute to pay for our parking tickets, and we hit the snooze button 10 times because who needs to blow dry their hair before work, right?
When you dedicate time for yourself to be alone and get shit done, miracles start to happen.
All of a sudden, you're not on your last pair of socks before you are forced to do laundry. You're not squeezing the last bit of toothpaste before you get yourself to make a trip to the grocery store.
Unfamiliar? Sure, but exciting? Hell yes.
You're actually getting your to-do list done, and it feels damn good. Once you start checking things off and discover how one day is full of opportunities to take care of your own shit, you'll become addicted.
2. Get to know yourself.
All right, if getting shit done didn't convince you, here is something that will.
When was the last time you discovered something new about yourself? And I don't mean that new favorite cocktail the cute little bar you just found makes. I mean something of value.
Do you paint? Write? Care to learn a new language? Don't know?
Then why haven't you taken the time to find out. Within all of us, there are hidden talents. Sure, you might not be the next Michelangelo, but if you gain a love for guitar playing, isn't that something?
You don't have to change the world to change yourself, and there is a lot you can gain from getting to know who you are. How else will you ever get involved with someone else if you have no idea who you are entirely as a person, as a whole?
Getting to know yourself is getting to love yourself.
3. Get to love yourself.
We live in a world where we aren't what we “post” to be. Hiding behind filters, carefully chosen characters, emojis and screens, we're no longer as raw and open as we once were, as our parents were forced to be.
No one Instagrams the hardships, only the success and sometimes even the pretend success. We are living in an era where we are losing ourselves in social media. We're getting lost in likes, gaining confidence in empty compliments.
So, who are you? Once you discover this, you're home free. Like I said, getting to know yourself is getting to love yourself. And what better love story than self-love?
Besides, once you fall in love with yourself and truly appreciate your solitude, you'll think twice about whom you're spending your time with.
It's the beauty of self-love. As it evolves and grows, you get pickier with your surroundings, setting yourself up for success and nothing less.