One of my favorite (and funniest) sayings in life is from the movie, “Meet the Millers,” in which one of the characters has a tattoo that says, “No ragrets.”
While this isn’t really supposed to be an inspirational moment in the movie, I find it incredibly hilarious to quote and important to keep in my mind.
We tend to go through life with many regrets, or things we think we should be regretting, because of what others tell us. Life shouldn’t be this way. We are not supposed to live life with regrets at all because, as we’ve been told, everything teaches us a lesson.
But, no matter what you mother, brother, BFF or whomever else told you, there’s a good list of things you should never, ever feel bad for doing:
1. Choosing the wrong major in college.
You should never feel bad about choosing the wrong major. So what if you majored in American history but have a job in sales? Your major doesn’t define you and neither should college.
Honestly, no one really cares what your major was when you get to the point of applying for a job. No matter what you hear, don’t ever regret the major you choose — just stick with it.
2. Making the wrong choice about college.
We tend to believe we must go to college to be successful. This is a complete lie. Whether you choose to go to college or not, don’t regret the decision you made.
At the time, it may have seemed like the best thing to do, and you are probably a different person because of it. I mean, look at all the successful people in life. Most of them quit college! Sometimes, I wish I did, too.
3. Drinking too much that night.
We’ve all had the nights when we accidentally drank too much and did something stupid.
This night probably gave you a pretty badass story, but it probably also taught you an important lesson about vodka.
Even if you could go back in time and fix whatever happened that night, chances are, the same thing would have happened at another point. Fate is pretty good at making a strong appearance somewhere.
4. Dating a douche.
At some point in your life, you will probably date a completely awful person for too long. When it ends, you will hate yourself for it and wish you had the time back.
This happened to me once and now, I've blown up the Internet with his story and have a book on the way.
This experience will teach you how it feels to be vulnerable and allow yourself to feel emotions. Without emotion, how would you feel alive?
5. Spending too much on something.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m wasting too much money on traveling every time I leave the country. But then, I remember what experiences I had and how much I grew from them.
Don’t ever feel bad for spending too much money on something. Chances are, you learned something crucial after you felt a hole in your wallet.
6. Picking the wrong job.
At some point in your life, you will choose to work a job that doesn’t make you happy over a job that might because one offers more money.
This is an important lesson to learn because it only enhances the idea that a job should be more about the work than the money.
Don’t feel bad for not choosing a typical day job or choosing an awful day job. This will only help you find your next best job.
7. Yelling at someone you love.
At any given point in our lives, we will have a passionate, negative feeling against someone else. There will be times that this will come out in the wrong way and will hurt the other person.
Never feel bad for doing this because you are simply expressing your emotions; never feel bad for showing your feelings.
8. Leaving someone you love.
It doesn’t matter in what manner this happens — we all leave someone we love at some point. It could be family, friends or a lover. To move on with our lives, sometimes we have to leave people behind.
Leaving someone who is so close to our hearts always seems like a mistake, but in some ways, it sets us free. Never question your choice to leave a good thing behind.
9. Making out with your ex’s best friend.
I once made out with my ex’s best friend when I was really young in college. At the time, both of them made me feel incredibly horrible for what I had done.
But honestly, it was the best thing I could have done because it truly let me see what kind of a person both of them were.
Never regret a decision you made about someone else because chances are, the truth will come out.
10. Getting in trouble with the law.
I’m not encouraging bad behavior or saying it is right to do it, but you shouldn’t be regret breaking the law.
The government isn’t really an incredibly fun source to be against, but it probably taught you to change your behavior in a way that no other human being could.
11. Not saying, “I’m sorry.”
There are many times I really wish I would have said, “I’m sorry” to someone. It hurts me at night when I think back to the times I really messed up and should have apologized right away.
There will be times when you will write an entire apology in your head and it will never be spoken.
Don’t regret never saying it. Some things in life are best left unsaid because deep down inside, we know that it may not change things to the way they were. Forgive yourself for not forgiving others.
12. Being too late.
I’m not talking about being late to work — that’s a whole other story. Rather, there are times in life when we show up late for someone or something.
We may realize the person in front of us is the person we should have been with or we realize we should have been spending more time with our families.
Don’t regret the decisions you made in the past, but instead focus on changing your decisions for the future.
13. Having a bad attitude.
Every now and then, we will be crabby and upset with someone. Just like loving someone, it’s an emotion we have to experience in life.
I am prone to apologizing constantly for being upset at work or crabby to a friend. It’s not worth regretting because we have to feel this emotion in order to move on with our days, weeks and lives.
14. Giving up.
We are told we should never give up on anything, and that doing so makes us quitters. At some point, though, we have to give up on things in order to have better lives.
Sometimes, this means giving up on someone, giving up on your job or simply saying you have too much on your plate.
We shouldn’t feel bad about giving up so long as it isn’t something we consistently do. In fact, it’s a way for us to let someone else know we need help.
15. Who you are.
There have been multiple times in my life when I was upset with my life, what I was doing and the way I was handling things. It happens; it teaches and it builds.
We should never, ever be upset for how we act or who we are. If there is something in life that you don’t like, change it. Don’t hate it.
Never feel bad about who you are or what you do because you can always move forward in life as a better person.