Confidence Vs Arrogance: Why You Shouldn't Care What Others Think Of You

by Stina Sanders

“She loves herself” and “she's fake” are phrases I have heard about myself a little too often. I’m not a nasty person, nor am I someone who likes to kick over the beehive.

I am, however, someone who is very happy to speak her mind.

I hate to break it to you, but I’m confident in my own skin, and I genuinely couldn’t give a f*ck about what you think of me.

Unless you’re my partner, a friend or a family member, I couldn’t care less about your thoughts. After all, everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and what you say about me is none of my business.

In fact, the last thing I want to do is care about what people think of me. Because nine times out of 10, I don’t even think about them at all!

Of course, constructive criticism is something I will always be happy to listen to. But if you’re a troll or someone I barely know, I’m afraid your opinions are going to have to jog on!

Despite my ability to not give a f*ck, I am always shocked by the fact that so many are scared to jeopardize their reputation. People who care too much about what other people think are just wasting their time.

Why live your life bothered by what society thinks?

Of course, there is no hiding from the fact society will always want us to conform, and people will always be quick to squash someone's self-satisfaction. It's like people choose to believe confidence is the same as arrogance, when, in reality, there is a huge difference between the two! Allow me to explain:

Confident people embrace others.

An arrogant person believes he or she is better than most people and is quick to tear others down. A confident person embraces others and wants people to succeed.

Confident people have respect for others.

An arrogant person loves to be negative and preaches to anyone who will listen. A confident person has respect for others, and believes everyone is on the same level.

Confident people laugh at their weaknesses.

Arrogant people often fight fire with fire and refuse to own up to their mistakes. Confident people are almost impossible to break because they are satisfied with their failures, as they see failure as a part of growing.

Confident people believe in themselves.

Arrogant people will tell you how good they are, but confident people will let their successes speak for them.

Confident people don't give a f*ck about the rules of society.

Just imagine if Emmeline Pankhurst had given a f*ck. She definitely wouldn’t have led the suffragette movement, and we ladies wouldn’t have the entitlement we have today.

So, if you are a fierce female, keep doing your thing and continue to not give a f*ck.

However, if you are a person who does give a f*ck about what other people think, here’s some advice you should definitely consider: Don’t give a f*ck about being different.

Be comfortable with being indifferent. Why be a sheep when you can be a ram? Those f*ckers have nothing better to do.

At the end of the day, you’re going to win some and lose many. This is my everyday mantra. You're not always going to be everyone's cup of tea, but as long as you stay true to yourself, you will be just fine.

Trust me.