There are places where some of us are required to tone down our identities just because we have to look professional, like a job or an internship. This is completely understandable because they’re paying you; whether it’s currency or experience, it doesn’t matter. You have a code of conduct to adhere to and by accepting your position there, you have agreed to adhere to that code.
I’m not talking about those places. I’m talking about everyday life: walking up and down the street, online at Starbucks or hanging out at the bar. Why girls target other girls not only for their looks but how they act, what guys they hang out with, etc., I’ll never know for sure exactly why. A range of explanations do come to mind, but I don’t want to assume because that won’t break the malicious cycle of judgment.
Guys don’t really care one way or another. They think you’re attractive or you aren’t. There are plenty of styles that I’m sure they don’t understand, but not everything revolves around attracting a man. Girls seem to really hate other girls. It’s a mystical power they have to be able to immediately hate another girl just by looking at her. From the minute that girl enters the bar, you’ve already got here figured out and you f*cking hate her.
I had a similar experience and I just hated a girl because she started dating my ex-boyfriend. The key word in that statement would be ex-boyfriend. We were broken up, he was free to date whomever he wanted and I had no relation to that girl. But I hated her. Then at some point in time, I find myself drinking a bottle of wine with this girl in my room with two other girls. Turns out we had a lot in common and in that moment, I liked her.
Based on experience, this leads me to believe that most of the time girls have no reason to dislike you; they just do it because they can. So, here are ten reasons why you shouldn’t give a flying rat's ass about what they think.
At that moment in time it made you happy
You acted exactly how you wanted to, when you wanted to. Whether it hurt or displeased someone else. That sounds harsh, but it’s true. Sometimes you need to live for yourself and not worry about anyone else.
You’re never going to please everyone, so please yourself
Most of us strive to keep others happy, like the nurturers or helpers who are considered a “2” on the Enneagram Personality Test. I scored a 2, and as nice as it is, it could be a serious character flaw. If we spend all this time making sure everyone around us is happy, who is making sure we’re happy? If you can’t even please yourself, how can we expect anyone else to?
You took a chance
You wanted to travel outside of your comfort zone. Not that I condone making this a habit, but maybe you wanted to be somebody else for a day. There’s nothing wrong with being open to new experiences. Even if they turn out to be bad ones, they’re experiences nonetheless and guaranteed you gained something from it.
Or, you seized an opportunity
What if you sat down and thought, “This is the one time I can do this and get away with it.” Why not do it then? There are enough things in life we may never receive or get the chance to even come in contact with. Seize those opportunities.
Chances are, you aren’t the first of your kind to take that chance
Don’t think you’re the only one who took a similar chance or maybe even that exact one. It’s 2013 and unfortunately, there isn’t so much originality anymore. Everything is really just a spin off or hybrid version of what came before it.
If you didn’t do it, you’d regret it
If you made excuses or talked yourself out of doing something that you genuinely wanted to do at some point, you’re entering the realm of regret. Once you enter this realm, you can be just as bitter as the person hating on who you are or how you look. Don’t live in regret, but more importantly don’t put yourself in a situation where you’ll feel regretful.
Anything negative said was said on Facebook
This should be enough indication that whatever was said, no matter how much that person meant it, shouldn’t mean anything to you. I would rather someone be honest to my face (and not maliciously) than talk sh*t behind their computer screen in a nasty way. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and like I said, you aren’t going to please everyone. But cyber bullying is and will forever remain unwarranted.
It’s a form of flattery
You know how people say that we tend to hurt the ones we love most? This is kind of the same concept. Some people just don’t know how to be nice when they’re envious of someone else or bitter to the fact that maybe somebody got that haircut or that outfit before they did. You’re just so awesome that people couldn’t contain their emotions over it.
It has nothing to do with anyone but YOU
Easier said than done, but we’re referring to personal lifestyle choices. Why anyone gets overly opinionated or worked up over somebody else’s actions or appearance is beyond me. That person doesn’t have to wear that outfit or style their hair that way. They don’t even have to look at you.
Most importantly, it’s none of their f*cking business
This is pretty self-explanatory, but it is my favorite reasoning for everything. Other than the fact that people might have to look at you or hear your voice, it’s none of their concern. If you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut. We’re all old enough not to gossip our feelings about things that have nothing to do with anything or bring no good to anyone.
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