Lately, there's been a lot of hate toward women faking orgasms, but I’m here to defend them.
Faking an orgasm doesn’t make you any less of a feminist or a woman.
There are many scenarios where fake orgasms are completely acceptable. Here are just a few of them:
1. It’s more fun if you scream.
Achieving an orgasm from sex alone can be very difficult, and most of the time, you can tell right away if it’s going to happen or not.
But just because you don’t think it will happen, it doesn’t mean you can’t pretend.
Faking an orgasm will make you a more enthusiastic participant.
What sometimes begins as a fake orgasm can actually turn into a real one. So, if you can fake your way to the real thing, why the hell not?
2. Avoid the chafe, not the conversation.
Have you ever been with a guy so generous and enthusiastic that he will just not accept your lack of an orgasm?
I have. If you don’t fake it, you’ll learn there actually is such a thing as too much sex.
Just because you aren’t climaxing, it doesn’t mean you’re not enjoying yourself.
However, many guys get so focused on the orgasm that they are either determined to give it to you, or they become self-conscious about themselves.
As I write this, I hear the feminists saying, "You shouldn’t fake it for a man. It reinforces the misconception of the female orgasm and sexuality."
I get that.
But in the moment, it’s probably better to just fake it and talk after, instead of not fake it and deal with chafing after.
For the record, you definitely should talk to your partner about what you like and what reasonable expectations he should have about your climaxes.
3. It’s sexy.
Faking an orgasm will turn you on. So, it will potentially lead to a real orgasm or better sex.
Faking an orgasm will also turn him on, creating a more confident and enthusiastic partner.
You’ll lift your own confidence by boosting both of your energy levels.
4. It’s intimate.
Yes, a real orgasm would be more intimate, but a fake orgasm also increases intimacy.
After bone-shaking, heart-racing sex, you experience the best cuddling.
If you don’t get your hearts pumping and hands shaking, cuddling is often boycotted all together because you simply don’t need the rest.
After great sex, the cuddling is different.
You lie intertwined, astounded by how amazing that just was.
Good sex and cuddling are two paramount factors in healthy and intimate relationships.
5. You just want it to end.
Yes, I know the feminists are cringing again, but hear me out.
Even strong, independent ladies want to adhere to social conventions. It doesn’t make it ideal, but sometimes, you have to do what you have to do.
Imagine being with your boyfriend, and you’re just not into it. Do you just get up and walk away?
No, you don’t. Because if you did, you’d hurt his feelings, confuse him and upset him.
If you fake it, you might end up enjoying yourself (for the reasons listed above), and you won’t hurt his feelings.
But, have the conversation afterward. Be sure to tell him whatever it was you weren’t into.
Feminists hate on the fake orgasm because in many cases, it diminishes communication.
Communication is an incredibly important part of sex, maybe the most important.
It's true that faking an orgasm can mislead your partner. So, you should be honest with what you like and what you don’t like.
You should still be open, honest and fearless in bed.
But, it’s also important for sex to be fun, sexy and intimate, and faking it can help.