Women Admit Why They Forgave Their Husbands For Having An Affair And It'll Shock You
by Jen Glantz
If you think you're set on the rule that cheating is a giant relationship deal breaker, and you'd easily leave if you found out your bae was smooching someone else, you may have a change of heart if or when it happens to you.
For some, cheating is something they're willing to forgive, assuming lots of counseling, long chats and maybe even a moment of revenge are used to rectify the situation.
Wondering who's actually of the mindset that cheating is something you can get over? Check out why these seven women forgave their husbands after finding out they were hopping into bed with another woman:
1. I was having one, too.
I found out my husband was having an affair when the woman he was sleeping with left a voicemail on our home phone accidentally. I heard it and immediately took a deep breath. I had been cheating, too, and it was good to know we were both guilty of the same thing. I told him he was caught and that I was guilty, too. We ended up doing months of couples therapy to get our relationship back to where it should be, and as of a year later, we both haven't cheated and do want to be together.
— Rosi P., 34
2. I'd never find someone better.
It was two years ago that a friend of a friend told me she saw my husband out one night kissing someone else. At first, I didn't believe it, but she later sent me a photo of them that she took that night. I was devastated and so beyond upset. I wanted to get a divorce, but then, I thought about it and told myself I'd never find a better husband. He treated me well, made all the money and let me stay home and start a business. He was so nice to me and always made me feel safe and secure. I didn't want to try to see what the grass was like on the other side. I know this sounds crazy, but I never told him I found out he was cheating. I'm sure he still is. I just try not to think about it or let it show because I don't want to get divorced.
— Meg C., 31
3. I didn't want to be single.
Within the first three months of being married to a guy I dated for only a year before getting engaged, I found out he had a girlfriend on the side who didn't even know he was engaged. To be honest, I married him because I didn't want to be single. I wanted to be 30 and married with kids. So when I found out, I sat him down and told him I'd leave him if he didn't stop. I was hoping he'd stop because I really didn't want to be single again, and I wanted to continue on the marriage-and-babies track I had imagined. He promised me he'd stop and be a better husband. I don't know if he truly has stopped, but now, I'm pregnant and happy. To me, that's all that really matters.
— Erin L., 29
4. He supports me.
My husband is the moneymaker in the family. We have two kids, and I'm a stay-at-home mom with no income, who hasn't worked in years. He supports us 100 percent. When I found out he was cheating and told him I wanted a divorce, he made it very clear that I'd have no income and wouldn't be able to get a job. That made me take a step back and realize I didn't want to be single again, especially without the financial support he could give me. So I decided to try to forgive what he did and move on, for the sake of my kids and my bank account.
— Sheryl P., 41
5. He promised me it was one and done.
I wasn't shocked when I found out my husband was sleeping with the secretary at MY job. I always believed that most married men cheat, so why would he be an exception? I found out when she came in crying one day because I guess he told her he was done with her, and she told me everything. He promised me it was a stupid mistake and an urge he had to get out of his system. He said it was a one-and-done type of thing, and I guess I believe him.
— Rachel S., 32
6. It was revenge.
I told my husband I cheated on him before we got married, and he never could forgive me. It was always something that haunted our relationship, and he brought it up during every fight. In my mind, it was like, why did he want to marry me after he knew? But he did. Then, a year after we got married, he casually told me he cheated on me the first month we were married. It was totally revenge, and to be honest, I'm not sure if he did or if he said that to make me feel like we're equal, so he could move on. Anyway, I moved on from what he did — or what he says he did.
— Nikki L., 28
7. I know it didn't mean anything.
My now husband confessed after we were married that he cheated on me at his bachelor party. He said he was so drunk, he slept with another girl in Vegas. 'OK, fine,' I thought to myself. It clearly didn't mean anything, and I do trust that he'll never do that again.
— Shauna B., 30