How You Can't Heal From Having Your Heart Broken
Most of us have experienced heartbreak at one time or another.
Whether you were cheated on, lied to, ghosted, fallen out of love with or dumped, having your heart broken is truly a horrible experience. Each of these situations hurt the same.
Getting your heart broken involves a difficult adjustment period. It's a time when you try to reflect on what, when and why this even happened in the first place.
You'll probably find yourself asking these questions:
First off: "What the actual fuck?"
Second off: "How did everything that was so good go so completely wrong?”
The state of loneliness, loss and sadness that follows can be terrifying.
Your entire life has drastically changed all at once, and you wonder if you will ever have the desire to love or be loved again.
It is truly a state of mourning in a sense. It's normal to reminisce about the great times you had together and how good things were.
But the silence of no texts or calls can be deafening.
These are the six ways a woman never completely heals from having her heart broken:
1. You have a fear you will never be the same confident, happy person you once were.
The fear can certainly be all-consuming. Something inside you has changed.
Your heart is shattered, and you're not sure whether the pieces will ever fit back together. When they eventually do, you're afraid they may not fit perfectly back to the way they always used to be.
How can I get back to the OG me?
2. You think you will never meet anyone like him again.
It's normal to feel betrayed.
You're pretty certain you will never want to fall for anyone that much again because breaking up and having your heart broken really sucks.
We all get through breakups and move on: It just takes a lot of time and confidence.
Once the right guy comes into our life, it's clear a new relationship is budding.
It can feel pretty awesome.
3. You are wiser now, but a bit scarred.
It may be the perfect time and the most amazing guy, but something major about you has changed.
Rather than looking at him through rose-colored glasses, you now look at him differently.
Things are different this time around. You're playing a totally new, unfamiliar game.
You're going into uncharted territory now because you have scars.
4. Once a heart is broken, it heals. But it is never completely the same.
Love is a risk in your book now. It's difficult to trust again, especially if he lied, cheated on you or misled you.
Trust is a key player in any relationship. If you lose your sense of trust with someone, what exactly do you have left?
A relationship without trust is a lonely one, and you never want to experience that again.
5. You may be hesitant to allow yourself to fall for someone again, for fear of being disappointed.
You may ask yourself, “How can I open myself up to trusting someone who brings on a whole new potential of heartbreak and disappointment?”
The choice is entirely yours. You'll know when it's time to put yourself out there again. When the time is right, you'll feel taking that risk could be worth it.
6. You're not as carefree as you once were, and will take things much slower than in the past.
When a new guy comes into the picture, you're cautious and careful.
You keep yourself at a distance, and you feel as though you can't get too attached. Maybe you feel the heartbreak will hurt less if you approach a new relationship in this way.
You want to take things a lot slower than you did with the last guy, so that you don't quickly fall head-over-heels for another heartbreaker.
Heartbreak hasn't gotten easier throughout the years, and it's bound to happen to all of us at one point or another.
Even though you've been hurt in the past, you might find all these crummy experiences led you to the person you're meant to be with in the end.
Everything happens for a reason. You can put yourself out there again, and you will be happy once more.