Why You'll Never Have To Change When You Find The Right One
There’s more than seven billion people in this world.
All of us have different dreams, aspirations, ideal lives and goals. But, if there’s one thing we all have in common, it's that we’re all looking for love.
And, it's not just any kind of love.
We’re looking for the real deal, fairy tale, the can't-eat, can't-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over-the-fence, World Series kind of love.
And, what's the hardest part about finding this kind of love? The very beginning.
Today, finding someone you are compatible with is almost as impossible as finishing an entire Netflix series in less than two days. That’s why millions of people are willing to pay high prices to join dating sites, like eHarmony and Match.com.
When you do start dating someone, people say you have to “dull the crazy,” hide who you really are, put on a façade and cover up the real you.
Add social media into the mix, and things just get messy. Profiles can skew perceptions of who people really are just so they can get attention and “likes.”
People want to have relationships so badly they’ll go as far as changing who they are just to best fit someone’s needs.
But, that’s the worst thing you can do when you’re looking for the "right one."
When you find the right person, he or she will love and accept you, imperfections and all. He or she will never see your qualities as flaws.
When I started dating my boyfriend, I couldn’t have been crazier. I was always causing a scene, always burping at the bar and always looking for the next adrenaline rush.
If I had hid this side of myself, he would have eventually found it a few weeks or months later.
He probably would have felt lied to or betrayed, as I wouldn't have gone into the relationship openly or honestly.
When you find the right one, he or she will want to know this side of you. The right one will make sure you know it, too.
And it’s the truth: The right person will make you feel comfortable with being who you are — who you really are — deep down inside.
The right one will:
Make you feel comfortable in your own skin.
You’ll never feel "not good enough" because he or she will always remind you that you are. Your body, your mind and you crazy will always be the best parts of his or her day. He or she will always make you feel like you’re on cloud nine.
Never ask you to change.
Just because there are parts of yourself you may think are “hard to love,” that's not necessarily the truth. The one will embrace you and all of your traits.
Often, you both will have differences of opinions or ways of handling situations, but he or she won’t fault you for it. The one will work with you, not against you, to make it work in both your favors.
Want to do things you enjoy.
Even if you’re into different things, he or she will make it a priority to incorporate your likes and his or her likes into the mix. So, you’re into punk rock and he or she isn't.
The one will still take you to a concert (or two) and try it on for size just to make you happy.
The one will go with you to a movie he or she probably wouldn’t have seen if it weren’t for you, try a restaurant you like and even binge watch "Friends" at 2 am on Netflix with you, all because you love it.
Won’t make you feel crazy.
It’s no secret — we’re all a little crazy. We have parts of ourselves that are more intense than others, and we have qualities we often feel are a little nuts. But the one won’t make you feel crazy.
When you find him or her, you’ll truly be comfortable with who you are. The one will fiercely love you, build you up, and fill you up with confidence and pride. You’ll never want to hide who you are ever again.
Make you see the greatness in all of life.
I’m usually such a cynic, but who in this generation isn’t? I often used to mock and make fun of “love” and “soul mates.” I didn’t believe in any of it.
I thought people just got together because it worked for their lives, not because there was such a thing as crazy, head-over-heels love.
I guess maybe it’s because I grew up in a divorced home. But, when I found the right one, it all changed. It’s a clichéd, I know, but everything was brighter.
It was like going through life with the brightness turned all the way up. Flowers smelled better, skies were clearer and I even enjoyed rainy days.
When we find our ones, they make us believe in all this sh*t we never thought we could (especially love).