5 Things That Start To Suck Once You're Actually In A Relationship
Being in a relationship has become a major goal in life for people our age. Almost everyone, man or woman, is looking for that special someone to hold on to at night, someone to share his or her dreams and achievements with and someone to share his or her life with.
That's all well and good and everything, but I think single people forget how boring and sucky being in a relationship can be. Sure, you think you've found "The One" or whatever, but inevitably, certain aspects of your life start to really suck and get insanely boring.
1. Your bank account
Sure, Jennifer Lopez said her love "don't cost a thing," but she is completely incorrect, both grammatically and practically.
Being in a relationship costs money. You still need to go out and do stuff with your significant other. People think that when someone is in a relationship, all he or she does is sit on the couch with his or her lover and watch TV for months.
That's simply not true. Holy crap is that not true. If you've ever been in a relationship, you know the pressure of having to come up with new and exciting date ideas and gifts that let your SO know you still care and think about him or her. You will be spending a lot more money than you think.
Plus, it's not like when you go out on those dates with your boyfriend or girlfriend, all of a sudden it's a 50-50 split of the bill. Someone is always burdened with paying for things, and that can take a huge chunk out of one's financials.
We need to stop pretending that relationships don't cost money.
Spending the holidays with your significant other sounds wonderful. You get to share in the holiday spirit and "canoodle" with each other while feeling the special glow of whatever holiday it is.
But that's where you are wrong.
On big holidays, you most likely have to spend that time with your SO's family. That's an incredibly stressful situation. You have to put your best foot forward and make sure you impress them. You have to be on your best behavior, probably have to wear something fancy, and there is absolutely no "canoodling" allowed -- awkward.
Plus, there is the additional problem of, well, what are you going to get him or her? It's an added pressure that single people don't have to deal with. They don't have to find the perfect gift or think about how much they should spend on the love of their lives.
If you're single, you don't have to worry about the disappointment you might face if your SO isn't really into your gift. You don't have to worry about your partner's friends incessantly asking, "So what are you going to get him/her?"
3. Your sex life
People in relationships generally don't have crazy, sexually overwhelming, insane sex. If you are in one of those sexually adventurous couples who are always trying new things, kudos to you, mate. But most people, once they get into a relationship, are dealing with the same bland, "Paint By Numbers" sex that has become routine with their partners.
Plus, do you really want to have insane sex with your SO? I certainly don't want to try to do some of the nasty stuff that would really get me going with a girl I'm dating. That craziness is reserved for one-night stands and hook-up friends.
I don't want to let the woman I love know about my wildest, most insane inner desires. I care too much about that person to ask her to do some of the borderline degrading stuff I'd like to try.
Holy sh*t is Snapchat boring when you are in a relationship. When you're single, you could get a sexy surprise from someone at any given moment. You never know who might hit you up with a snap that says, "Hey, I'm thinking about you, and I want to get it on." It's exciting. It's mysterious. It's sexy.
But when you're in a relationship, no one ever snaps you. No one. And the people who do are boring AF. If you're in a relationship, go ahead, look at your Snapchat right now. You probably have 0 private snaps, and your friends' stories are the dumbest things on the planet.
Oh wow, you recorded your dog looking out a window? How interesting. Oh, you're cooking dinner for yourself? That's amazing.
Who cares? If you're in a relationship, just delete the app, and save some room on your phone's storage.
5. Talking to other people
Now, I'm not talking about cheating. We all know you shouldn't be doing that. But in my experience, any time I've gotten a text message from a girl (who is just a friend), my girlfriend would be peering over my shoulder, ready to ask, "Who is that? How do you know her?"
This is an annoying part of being in a relationship. First of all, why is she constantly looking over my shoulder at my phone? Second of all, it's so ridiculous that I need to have a back story for every single person who texts me and explain how I'm not cheating, or that the person's texting me really doesn't mean anything.
It's tiring and, boy, is it a pain in the ass.
Or if you are at a bar and some stranger starts talking to you about something, your SO will almost always think that person is hitting on you. Then you have to downplay it like, "No, she definitely wasn't."
It doesn't matter if she was or wasn't; you are going to get questioned about it.
These are just some of the things you'll come across in your time being in a relationship. These little parts of your life will start to suck immensely. But if you think you've found the right person, who you want to spend the rest of your life with, I suppose it's all worth it.
But if you care about any of the things listed above, you might have some trouble being in a relationship.