There's always a moment, right? Like, there's one defining moment when you know it's over. Something changes.
Maybe you don't get the "goodnight" text you're used to getting every night. Maybe your one dinner plan keeps getting rescheduled. Maybe you can't even put your finger on what it is.
It's just something shifted, and now you know... it's over.
That moment has always interested me more than the moment you fell in love. It's the moment when you fell out of love or, even worse, when you noticed the person you loved fell out of love with you.
The concept of that shift from hot passion to cold distance has always interested me.
Maybe it interests you, too. Or maybe you're worried your relationship might be coming to its own close.
Whatever the case, read through these and see what 23 people define as the "moment" you should know it's over.
1. When your IRL dynamic is different.
We tend to drift apart. Like you can feel the ice freezing over and there's an obvious shift between what was and what is.
— Kerri, 20
You can tell when they start to ignore you or act distant.
— Ashley, 24
They ghost or are super vague with making plans.
— Miranda, 27
I mean, this is probably the oldest giveaway in the book, but if they act like they don't care (and sometimes even say they don't care), then the odds are, they don't care. Time to move on. Convincing yourself to keep going back and forth is just wasting everyone's time.
— AJ, 23
When she stops buying baby wipes for pooping purposes.
— Frasher, 24
When you start obsessing over their every move because deep down, you know they don't care to spend a majority of their time with you.
— Mckenzie, 21
When the consistency has changed, and you're constantly walking on eggs shells around your SO.
— Margaret, 26
2. When your partner has better things to do.
— Allie*, 39
When they believe spending time with you is unproductive.
— Rich, 23
When he's more concerned with his friends than me.
— Taylor, 22
3. When you start worrying about other people.
You see him texting a new girl.
— Lauren, 21
When she starts hooking up with your friends. Total tell-tale sign.
— Robb*, 24
4. When the texting dynamic changes.
When they stop calling and texting you consistently and start making excuses.
— Camille, 24
They don't text you as much, seem disinterested in meeting up and are distant when you're together.
— Emily, 24
Starts to be more distant — not as interested in conversation and vague texts (lol).
— Lindsay, 21
Doesn't reply to your texts/calls or does it in fewer words; bails on things; overall less effort put in.
— Olivia, 23
They don't put as much thought or effort into making plans. You can feel people getting jaded over text.
— John*, 21
They ghost you.
— Anita, 27*
When they text me less and less throughout the day.
— Rachel*, 24
You always have to text first.
— Kaitlyn, 27
5. When you just have a feeling.
Gut feelings are never wrong and shouldn't be ignored. If you're having a gut feeling your partner isn't being honest with you or is pulling away from you, you're probably right.
— Emily, 29
When you know, you know, dawg.
— Jamarcus, 35
Things just feel different, but not in a good way.
— Christina, 21
Experiencing any of these five signs? Maybe it's time to have a chat with your partner.
*Names or ages have been changed.