If a person is dating me, I feel like it's pretty safe to assume that they like me. Then again, who knows? In 2017 alone, I witnessed exactly three friends' live-in, long-term relationships nuclear bomb-themselves and implode. (It's only September.) There's a difference between falling for a person as in "you're on the level," and falling for a person as in "cohabitation in a 800-square foot apartment with you sounds great." So what are signs he's falling for you if he's already your boyf?
I think the whole "moving in together" thing is a pretty concrete and serious indication that he's into it. I also think the whole "I love you forever and want to buy you a ring" proclamation indicates he's serious about getting serious. I also have a friend whose boyfriend did both of those things, and then she found out he was cheating on her for five years of their seven-year relationship, so trust your gut and stay woke, fam.
Also, very important to consider: Are you falling for your partner, too? If you are, and you're wondering how seriously he's taking the relationship, but you're to afraid to just ask him (which I highly recommend if you want to save time), you'll be looking for signs your boyfriend is really falling for you. I went straight to the source and sought out some actual male input on Reddit, because why not? Here's the verdict:
1. This guy says it's about sharing things together:
Yes, sharing is caring for sure.
2. This guy says it's when he starts worrying about you:
So, the username doesn't quite fit the sweet sentiment. Also, there's a difference between worrying and being overprotective, but worrying = caring.
3. This guys says it's when he can't stop saying your name:
Oh, I have been there.
4. This guy says it's when he wants to be with you more often than not:
I feel this deeply. I like having some "me time" and if I start to have big feelings for someone, I want "me and you time" more.
5. This guy wants to protect you:
Old school for sure.
6. This guy admits that you will probably know he's into you:
A follow up user commented "And even then..." so basically, trust your gut.
7. This guy (or woman) says it's all about how they speak about you:
That's legitimate. Making the fam your fans means he's seeing things going forward for a long time.
All in all, I would say that my earlier advice to simply ask your boyfriend where he sees things going is a more time effective way to figure him out than studying him for hints. At the same time, people are not always upfront and honest with their intentions. If you are in a happy and loving relationship with someone who loves you equally and treats you well, you'll feel it. Quit your worrying and enjoy your boyfriend in the meantime.
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