4 Glaring Signs That Your Relationship Is No Longer Salvageable

by Ashley Massis

In the never-ending emotional roller coaster of love and relationships, we often wonder and second-guess where our paths will take us.

Will they end in marriage or a brokenhearted version of ourselves, hunched over a pint of Ben & Jerry’s? To avoid the latter, here are a few ways to identify a failing relationship:


When your current beau goes MIA, you start to wonder what the real problem is.

Gone are the days like the beginning of your relationship when you two were attached at the hip, finishing each other’s sentences and having withdrawal symptoms after being away from each other for more than two hours.

Now, you hear from him or her sporadically and you know more about his or her life from social media than from actual one-on-one communication.

The opposite of love is indifference. If he or she doesn’t care to keep you updated, there’s probably a deficit of general caring. You’re not the captain of a sinking ship, and there’s no need to ride out a failing relationship. Move on.

No More Future Talk

Remember when you two once talked about how many children you wanted to have? If you both stop investing in each other’s future plans, it’s a sure sign things are going south.

When conversations that used to be “we” centric turn to “I” centric, it should absolutely raise a red “relationship fail” flag in your mind. Try to talk about future plans.

If he or she answers with the dreaded words of “we’ll see,” maybe you should start thinking of yourself and your solo plans.

The Blame Game

Does it seem like you two are constantly fighting? Have those little personality quirks become annoyances? If so, it’s only a matter of time before you two split ways.

Of course, it’s normal to have disagreements or arguments. As you progress in your relationship, adult issues like money, living situations and future plans won’t always be points of agreement.

However, when he or she starts to blame you for everything or you start to become annoyed with the little things, it’s time to reevaluate your situation.

If your partner attacks your character traits or make you feel incompetent, identify your failing relationship and run from it. No one should ever feel insufficient in his or her partner’s eyes.

Every relationship endures different phases. If arguments become more frequent, it’s time to end things.

Constantly On The Phone

Yes, we are in a constantly connected society. With Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, Snapchat and other communication platforms, we sometimes treat our phones better than we treat our relationships.

If someone constantly ignores what you're saying and is more connected to what's happening on his or her smartphone than you, you should be annoyed.

Talk to your partner and if he or she seems annoyed or unwilling to work on habits, it’s likely your partner is now unwilling to make you happy. If such is the case, get out of it fast. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you and will make you a priority.

The most important aspect of any relationship is communication. Communication can solve any issue and provides both parties in a relationship security.

If you start to make excuses to yourself about your significant other, take a good hard look in the mirror. Everyone is afraid when they start or end a life chapter.

It’s understandable for you to want to work through a hard spot in a failing relationship due to the time you’ve already invested. However, if it becomes more about the lost time you’ve invested and less about the person you could potentially lose, it’s time to throw in the towel.

Stop wasting your significant other’s time and your own time, as well. Who knows, maybe you’re passing up someone important in the meantime.

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