I have to say, Generation-Y has a sh*tty way of dating. People have become accustomed to being in constant communication with their significant others, and that has made some of us a tad bit obsessive.
It's okay to be obsessed with your significant other, but it's not okay to be a clinger. Being a clinger is a bad position to be in because it can cause major problems for your love life.
Being a clinger is becoming a social norm in today's society because of the ease at which technology has allowed us to constantly know what someone is doing, reading, eating, listening to, etc. Here are three ways to know if you're the clinger in your relationship:
1. Your Phone
Relationships are taking a toll on us when it comes to our beloved cell phones. Your phone has literally everything you need, but with that comes the start of the addiction to your SO.
If you catch yourself doing things like this, you're a clinger:
1. You have his or her photo as your background.
This could be cute if you're in a long-distance relationship, but if it's a picture solely of your SO, whom you see every other day, you have reached clinger status.
2. You're constantly checking your phone to see if your SO has read or responded to your text.
I'm guilty when it comes to this one. If I'm saying something important, I want fast replies.
I get very impatient while waiting for a response. I guess I can be a clinger at time.
3. You check to see when your SO was last on his or her social media accounts.
You go through the "following" tab on Instagram to see if he or she has liked any pictures. You see when he or she last favorited, retweeted or tweeted anything on Twitter. You go through your stories to see if he or she viewed it or posted anything.
Basically, you do anything to make sure he or she hasn't done something on social media before he or she responded to you.
2. Your Texts
Texting is a blessing and a curse. If you catch yourself doing things like this, you're a clinger:
1. If you're SO doesn't respond, you try other platforms.
You Snapchat, Facebook message or slide into your SO's DMs. This can be annoying if your SO is actually busy, and it can make for an interesting argument when he or she sees the notifications.
2. You always text first.
Yes, guys, some girls do text first all the time. If you can go almost an entire day without hearing from your SO because you didn't text first, there's a chance you are clingy.
There is nothing wrong with going hours without talking to your SO. I promise.
3. If your SO doesn't respond, you send a short novel explaining why he or she should respond, or you guess as to why he or she hasn't responded.
I have also been guilty of this one, but only if it's in regard to something important. But if you asked, "What's up?" and sent an intro, body and conclusion before your SO could tell you he or she was in the shower, you have reached a whole new level of clingy.
3. Your In-Person Interactions
It's easy to get wrapped up in your SO when you're together. But sometimes, being so invested isn't a good thing. If you catch yourself doing things like this, you're a clinger:
1. When you're in public, you can't be away from your SO.
If you're at a social gathering and you can't let him or her go to the bathroom without you standing by the door, you aren't doing any good for your relationship.
2. You check in at his or her go-to spots.
You just so happened to stop at his or her favorite restaurant at lunch to make sure he or she wasn't with anyone or ignoring you.
I admit that being in a relationship with Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter and Facebook all available to you at all times of the day can add a little stress to your daily routine, especially now that cheating is such a common trend. But, being clingy isn't the answer.
If you've realized you're guilty of a few of these things, take a deep breath. Being a clinger isn't entirely terrible.
Just take a chill pill, and let your SO live without you all up in his or her grill 24/7. It will be okay. I promise.