If You Feel Any Of These 8 Things, You Should Break Off Your Engagement
It's no secret that planning a wedding can be ultra stressful.
Calm people turn into bridezillas or groomzillas. Couples that hardly ever fought before the marriage question was popped start to argue over the tiniest things like whether to have kale or Romaine lettuce at the reception. If you think your relationship can survive anything, see if it survives the pre-wedding adventure.
If you're starting to find yourself screaming at the top of your lungs or slamming the door in the face of the person you're about to promise an eternity of marital bliss with, you might want to take a step back and see if it's time to put the engagement on pause and re-evaluate your relationship.
Before doing so, take a deep breath and read on to find out the eight disagreements that show that it's time to break off the engagement.
1. The future freaks one of you out.
When the topic of having cold feet has been brought to the table, it may be a sign that you both need to take a break, a step back or even just find a way to have a convo about why the future is freaking you out.
Remember that while weddings can be stressful, they can also be make-or-break moments of a relationship. So if yours or your fiancé's gut are rumbling with moments of doubt about this relationship, it may be the only indication you need that this relationship is on the rocks.
2. Jealousy is a third wheel.
If your fights are because one of you is jealous over the other's behavior, you may need to admit that this relationship has a broken foundation of trust.
It's going to be annoying to have a future with someone you have to keep an eye on and monitor their every move, every day, because you don't have an ounce of trust for them.
3. You can't imagine having kids with them.
If the topic of having a family together one day makes one of you lash out with ultimate refusal, it's time to recognize that as a major roadblock. You both should be on the same page about whether or not you want to have a family before you join together and build a life together as a twosome.
4. A lack of pre-wedding support.
Sure, you may find yourself being over the top and extra emotional during the wedding planning, but this is a time when your partner should be there with support. If you feel like you're planning this wedding on your own and your partner is indifferent about the whole thing, ask yourself and each other, why are you even getting married in the first place?
5. You're together for the wrong reason.
If, in the back of your head, you know you're only sticking around together for reasons that seem unbearable to admit, like financial reasons or even because you'd be too mortified to tell your family and friends that the engagement is off, you may want to recognize that you're in it for reasons that will eventually rise up to the surface like an ugly pimple and pop.
6. The little things become too big.
When the little arguments become insurmountable and almost impossible to move on from, your relationship is becoming a leaky sponge and needs to be put on pause so it can be repaired or torn apart, for good.
7. The past is the present.
Can't let go that he was once engaged to his ex-girlfriend or that he cheated on you three years ago? Well, no one is telling you that you have to get over these things, but if you can't and you still want to rush into marriage, you'll start to see it's not the best idea.
Have a chat with yourself and see if you're ready to leave the past behind you and move on or if you can't seem to kick the resentment you've been hoarding and holding on to.
8. Your families are making this a mess.
If your family and his family is at war with each other over this wedding and it's causing you two to constantly fight with each other, you may need to put the wedding on hold and see if these differences are something you and your families can work on together.
If not, you may want to hire a bouncer for your wedding in case a full-on brawl happens.