Don't Have Your Head In The Clouds: The Things You Should Focus On Instead Of A Relationship

by Ashley Fern

These days, it's typical for people to seek out relationships as their number one priority because they believe this is what life is all about. If you are devoting all of your time to seeking a partner, chances are, you are ignoring all of the other amazing things life has to offer.

It is much more beneficial to concern yourself with improving your character. Finding a counterpart is not going to bring you the kind of happiness your self-worth will. You don’t need another person to make you feel good about yourself, you can do that all on your own; something many people fail to realize.

Value your independence; it is one of the best parts of life. Freedom is a blessing. Finding someone is a sheer game of chance, averages and timing. Many people settle with someone out of the fear of being alone, social pressure or financial stability. You need to look beyond all the hype. The key is to be yourself, love yourself and love the people you surround yourself with.

Your career path

When embarking on a career path, it’s easy to get distracted. As great as relationships can be, they can also hinder your progress since you must now take into consideration someone else’s opinion. Your partner may not always agree with or support your motives and so, unfortunately, you may pass up opportunities that you will never have again.

A career will be there for you in 5 years and will offer endless benefits whereas a relationship can just prove to be detrimental. Focus on something that will be there for the rest of your life, not something that may only last a few months.

Your friends

True happiness comes from surrounding yourself with people whom you love and who love you in return. These are the people you will share life experiences with you, who will be with you through thick and thin. Focus your energy on creating the best possible circle of support you can.

New experiences

Whether it’s taking a class or learning a new hobby, you are never too old to grow mentally. Keep your mind active and engaged and see how beneficial this can be to your life. The world is always changing, so it’s crucial that you keep yourself up to speed so you do not fall behind.

Getting into shape

The better you look, the better you will feel. Try and do something active every day so you feel more alive. Get in tune with your body and see how much better you feel. The more in shape you are, the more motivated you will feel to go out into the world. Your future self will more than thank you.

Making yourself a better person

Try and do something that will better yourself as a person every day. It doesn’t matter if this is cutting people or bad habits out of your life or doing something differently to enhance it. As long as you are making constant changes, you will always feel as if you are living and improving. Gather the courage and strength to do something different, something outside of your comfort zone. Experience what life has to offer, make new experiences, meet new people and create memories that will last you a lifetime.

Not accepting the bare minimum

We accept jobs we hate, we deal with friends who let us down and we let our significant others get away with sh*t. You can’t expect to achieve more in life if you keep accepting the bare minimum. Mediocrity is a place people often get stuck in and do not know how to escape from. This is a mindset that can only be changed with mind renewal. In order to move from this place, one must think differently, get rid of what hasn’t worked, connect with those who can give sound direction, design a plan of action and put that plan in motion.

Increasing your financial intelligence

It’s no fun being broke and living paycheck to paycheck. You need to increase your financial awareness, so you can optimize your savings. Right now this is typically the first time you have money at your disposal, don’t fall into the trap of spending on pointless sh*t just because you can. Figure out the difference between what you need and what you want and budget accordingly.

Having fun

The most basic piece of advice — just have fun. Go out and do things for yourself that will bring you pleasure. It doesn’t matter what those things are, but if they make you happy, go out and do them. Don’t listen to the opinions of others, if it is something you want, just do it. Sometimes just the thought of a great story or memory can be enough to motivate you, embrace it because no one wants to look back on their life and wonder: ‘what if?’

You want to look back and think of all of the ridiculous, yet wonderful experiences you have had over the course of time. Sometimes in life, we just have to say f*ck it and do it for the story. Sure, maybe that seems impulsive or rash, but honestly what’s the point of living if you’re not going to make it a memorable experience?

The ability to be independent

At the end of the day, you only have yourself to fall back on, so it is exceedingly important to be able to handle things on your own. It is all about being secure with who you are and what you believe in. It is extremely empowering knowing that you are in control of your own life and your own choices. It is much more beneficial to listen to the voice inside yourself rather than the detrimental opinions of others.

There is no reason to base your life decisions on relationships with people. All relationships end at some point or another, it’s reality. There is nothing you can do to change or to affect that. The only thing you can do is change your perception of relationships. Instead of expecting them to make you happy by being in your life and providing enjoyment, appreciate the time spent and enjoyment since you know it will be gone.